baby carrier backpack hire image
Jenintn
I'm a stay at home mom of 4 kids (14,11,22mos., and 9weeks) Besides the demands of the other rugrats, my newborn has colic and cries ALL the time. Sometimes I cry with him when he's inconsolable. Is it cruel to lay them down and leave the room for awhile when I feel like I can't take anymore?
My teenager is a boy---need I say more?
No offense to all teen boys, but I'd get better results letting my toddler watch the baby!
My hubby works 15hr. days. So handing him off to him is out of the ? right now. I have suggested he cut back on hours (even though we need the $--my sanity is more important!)
Answer
Wow, sister. I thought I had it rough with a 11 month old and a daddy's who's away 4 nights a week. Do you have family near you that can help you with the baby, or the older kids, or something? I see what you mean about your 14 year old - does he maybe have any female friends that you can hire to babysit - even if it's for an hour or two so you can catch a nap?
Also, what about your 11 year old? Is this one responsible enough to entertain baby while you breathe for a few minutes?
Though I think it's very important to respond to a baby's cries, it's also important for you to maintain some degree of homeostasis, mentally. If you feel like shaking the baby, or hurting him or yourself or anything - it is WAY safer for everybody involved for you to put him down for a few minutes and gather yourself back up. Your baby needs you to be calm in order for you to mother him as best you can and this is very difficult if he is crying a lot.
A couple suggestions on the side - if you haven't already invested in one, a baby carrier can be a life saver. I really, really dont know how I would function if I didnt have one. My daughter never let me put her down when she was your son's age and so I would pop her into a baby carrier and I could go about everything else I needed ot do and she was happy to be close to me and involved in everything I was doing. Grant you, it's a little hard on the back - but worth every bit of it, because she NEVER cried in that thing. The trick is to keep moving once you've got it on. If you stand still doing nothing, baby's not happy, but if you're moving around baby is happy because he's entertained, or he's happy because he can be lulled to sleep. I dont know anything about your parenting style or how you like to do things or how ANYBODY gets anything done without one of these - all I know is that I dont think my house would be in one peice if I didnt have some sort of baby carrier ( I love them so much I have a front carrier, a sling AND a backpack - my daughter's never even been in a stroller before!)
hope that helps. you're not alone - being a mom is so under rated.
Wow, sister. I thought I had it rough with a 11 month old and a daddy's who's away 4 nights a week. Do you have family near you that can help you with the baby, or the older kids, or something? I see what you mean about your 14 year old - does he maybe have any female friends that you can hire to babysit - even if it's for an hour or two so you can catch a nap?
Also, what about your 11 year old? Is this one responsible enough to entertain baby while you breathe for a few minutes?
Though I think it's very important to respond to a baby's cries, it's also important for you to maintain some degree of homeostasis, mentally. If you feel like shaking the baby, or hurting him or yourself or anything - it is WAY safer for everybody involved for you to put him down for a few minutes and gather yourself back up. Your baby needs you to be calm in order for you to mother him as best you can and this is very difficult if he is crying a lot.
A couple suggestions on the side - if you haven't already invested in one, a baby carrier can be a life saver. I really, really dont know how I would function if I didnt have one. My daughter never let me put her down when she was your son's age and so I would pop her into a baby carrier and I could go about everything else I needed ot do and she was happy to be close to me and involved in everything I was doing. Grant you, it's a little hard on the back - but worth every bit of it, because she NEVER cried in that thing. The trick is to keep moving once you've got it on. If you stand still doing nothing, baby's not happy, but if you're moving around baby is happy because he's entertained, or he's happy because he can be lulled to sleep. I dont know anything about your parenting style or how you like to do things or how ANYBODY gets anything done without one of these - all I know is that I dont think my house would be in one peice if I didnt have some sort of baby carrier ( I love them so much I have a front carrier, a sling AND a backpack - my daughter's never even been in a stroller before!)
hope that helps. you're not alone - being a mom is so under rated.
Powered by Yahoo! Answers
Title Post: Help! What can I do to keep my sanity?
Rating: 96% based on 987 ratings. 4,7 user reviews.
Author: Unknown
Thanks For Coming To My Blog
Rating: 96% based on 987 ratings. 4,7 user reviews.
Author: Unknown
Thanks For Coming To My Blog
No comments:
Post a Comment