whats a good sling for a summer baby?

two july b

What's a good baby sling to use for a summer baby?
comfy and cool...i also have a 2 yr old so ill need something sturdy while im chasing my first kid. is the sling the same as a carrier? should i get one of each or one that can hold a newborn and an older baby?
thank you were about the same height but i weigh more..

Answer
the two most important things to ensure a good carrier/sling is: SIze of the Parent, and Weight of the Child. A great sling will be of no use if it doesn't fit.

price was not an issue to me so I can't remember what I paid for what, but you can find most of these on eBay if you are not picky regarding the color.

I have purchased (and been given) a total of maybe 6 slings and carriers. Heres my review of them
btw my Post partum weight /height is 126# 5'7"
(I will rank them at the end)

HOTSLING - I got size 3 (way too big for me) and my son hate it, always did, from 8 wks old, at 4 months old, he freakin hates it. My sister is very small (5'1" and about 110#, she bought size 1 and her son enjoyed the ride there). pros - very compact for travel, lightweight. cons - one adult arm is constrained so your are limited (can't fold laundry etc); and my son hated it but it was the wrong size and he fell too low.

MY BABY NEST (available at www.babiesrus.com online) - this uses the concept of a wrap around tie sling but you don't have to tie it. you just slip your arms though and wrap the waist belt around you and under your babies bum. (I got a medium, and even called the company rep and she told me she was the same size as me and she uses a medium). Again, I needed the small. My son sinks too low and it pulls on my shoulders and back. THIS IS PROBABLY THE BEST TYPE WRAP SLING THAT DOESN'T HAVE TO BE TIED OR WRAPPED EACH TIME. It's a pretty amazing little invention, just get a size smaller than you think you are b/c the spandex material is very very stretchy. Pros - comfortable for both mommy and baby if you get the right size, baby can be worn front, back and hip. cons - material stretches out after about 10 minutes of wearing. My husband also says it looks gay and he won't wear it.

SLEEPY WRAP - also a great wrap and my son actually likes this one. It's not that difficult to tie but does take some practice. The pros: comfortable for baby, can wear front/back/side, and one size fits all. Can accommodate toddlers as well as infants cons - also stretchy material, cant' really wear more than 30 min

SlingLing - nice and cool. some babies/parents don't feel secure with it

BABY BJORN - structured type carrier, pros - simple on/off. I can do it without other adult helping. my husband will wear it. baby worn in front but can face parent or outward. cons - not as comfortable for parent when baby weighs 20 pounds or more. can't wear on back. has metal in the clips so you have to take it off when you go through metal detectors at airport.

DEUTER - a great concept if you are over 5'7" tall. I am right on the borderline of this being comfortable. it's basically a backpack that has a seated compartment for an infant/up to maybe a 24month old. Pros - don't have to carry a separate diaper bag, Baby sits in more of a seat like position, good for Disneyland / going on long hikes where you don't want to carry a purse/other bags. Cons - not for short people, or even average height person, also remember it has a full back pack built in. This is a bit of overkill for just puttering around the house.

AND THE WINNER IS:
Ergo Baby Carrier.

Pros - baby can be worn front side and back, newborns (with special insert) and 3 yr olds fit comfortably in it. can purchase a separate small backpack to attatch to the carrier
very comfortable to both parent and baby

cons- it's kinda thick but that's what makes it comfortable. They were designed in hawaii and it's pretty hot there so I think it's ok for summer use.

some people complain about the price. I say better to buy one good one than go through 5 others before you find this one (but in all honesty the My Baby Nest one is awesome but I was just told the wrong size to buy - mis informed by customer service employee).

Baby Sherpa Diaper Backpack vs. Dadgear Diaper Backpack?

August

I'm looking for a diaper backpack, one that can hold my child's nebulizer, its not big and bulky, it has its own bag and pretty compact. I just want it to be able to fit in a diaper backpack preferably. Does anyone have any takes about the Baby Sherpa or Dadgear diaper backpack, as I read reviews on both being roomy? Please let me know.
Thanks.

Answer
portable nebulizers are no bigger than a book, so any backpack will work for your needs. visit any store that sells them & find the one that fits your needs & budget best.

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Travelling in Europe with a baby. What gear should I bring?

Mandi

I am going on a winter vacation around Europe for a couple weeks with a baby who will be almost two. I am looking for a stroller that works well on cobblestone, reclines, and is light. My son was born with a brain condition called Hydrocephalus and because of that his head is large and he is behind with his gross motor skills. He probably will still not be walking by this time. I am thinking about bringing a baby hiking backpack for times when we cannot use the stroller.

I would really appreciate advice on this from anyone who has ever travelled in Europe with a baby before! We will be going to about 5 different countries and travelling by metro and plane.

Answer
I think a light stroller is a good idea as it will be easy to fold up if you're in a restaurant or on public transport. If you're flying between countries consider a buggy bag to put it in before the flight.

Not all of Europe is covered in cobblestones(!) and most cities are fairly buggy friendly. If you're coming in winter then have a buggy with a foot muff to keep him warm. A back carrier is also a good idea for busier places or say certain sights like the coliseum where there are steps.

You can buy the other things you need here, nappies etc. Pampers and Huggies are both available across Europe (Pampers are called Dodots in Spain). There are a mix of facilities in terms of baby changing. In the UK and northern Europe, most places have change tables. In some mediteranean countries there can be less facilites in places like restaurants but if you head to big department stores or shopping centres most are well equipped.

If you plan to eat in restaurants, a fabric type fold away change seat is a good idea as some smaller may not have high chairs (most UK places will have high chairs).

good luck and have a great time here.

Why are my baby's cheeks bright red?

Brielle

Sometimes it is only one cheek and it flares up bright red. It is kind o splotchy but no roughness to it...It sometimes occurs when I carry him in the backpack.

Answer
There a lot of factors and more details could help but here's some reasons.

1. excess heat. If he falls asleep with his face against you then he'll get hot. One cheek red. This happens to my daughter when she's in her sling and sleeping.

2. teething. teeth coming in on one side tend to make screaming red, splotchy cheeks that aren't always even.

3. slapped-cheek (fifth diease). very common viral illness in children. It's usually mild. http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/Slapped-cheek-syndrome/Pages/Introduction.aspx

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Where can i find a cute, cheap backpack?

Misscutie

I'm starting school in TWO DAYS and i don't have a backpack. /:
My family is really poor right now, because we're getting garnished and
we have my mom & dad, me (freshman) my brother (7th grade) & my sister who is a baby.
so we are living off about 600 dollars every two weeks - which we also have to pay 1000 to rent each month so we have verry verry little money right now so im gonna be using hand me downs for clothes but i have No backpacks to use and i really really want a cute back pack, but i need a cheap one ): where can i find one? thanks!!

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I'm sorry to hear about your financial situation. Ebay has all different kinds starting at 99 cents! You could get a temporary tote bag from Five Below or cheap stores like that until your bag arrives. But if you need one RIGHT now, I would try Kohl's. I got a Jansport Superbreak bag there last year for only 15 bucks!

What is the cheapest Way to go from NARITA to the City Center?

wishon

Backpacking Baby!!!

Answer
The cheapest way to go from Narita Airport to downtown Tokyo would be to take Keisei line's limited express ( ç¹æ¥) for about 1000 yen and it takes only about 20 minutes more than their express "Skyliner" which cost 1920 yen. Also, by taking the train, you avoid the possibility of getting stuck in traffic.

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Stroller or Baby Backpack?

dwyersmama

We are going to Disney with our 1 year old. Should we bring our stroller and a sling(to wear him in when we can't bring a stroller) or should we skip the stroller and bring our backpack that he sits in?

Also, we don't need his car seat in Disney and our flights are full, so we probably won't need it on the plane. Should we bring it anyway just in case a seat opens up?

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I don't know if you are visiting Disneyland or Disneyworld but I live near Disneyland and go there monthly, I have an eight month old and couldn't imagine not having a stroller. You can rent one from Disneyland for $10 dollars which I think might be worth it for you if you are wanting to travel light.
http://disneyland.disney.go.com/disneyland/en_US/help/gsDetail?name=ParkwideServicesGSDetailPage

Should I get a sling style baby carrier, or a baby backpack carrier? My little one on almost 1 year old.?

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There are many ways to carry your baby safely. Choosing between a sling style carrier or a backpack carrier will depend on your lifestyle and activities you have planned when you go out with your baby. Some parents find the comfort and the bonding of a sling style carrier the best way to go when traveling. There are advantages to the sling style carrier, which includes a closer bonding experience and a much lighter device to carry. Backpacks come in handy when the family is off on a hiking excursion but will add more weight as it incorporates a frame to the carrier. Backpacks sometimes, depending on the one wearing it, will give more support with the adjustment of the carrier.

Also you must consider the age of your baby. Newly born babies should be close to the parentâs body and this is where a sling is mandatory over a backpack. Adjustments to a sling style carrier can sometimes take more time to adjust if two parents are sharing the same sling style carrier. Even though the sling style carriers that incorporate a ring device is easier to adjust, slippage is less likely to happen when using a carrier that does not use the ring device.

There are hundreds of choices for baby carriers and slings, so the choice can feel overwhelming. It is not as hard as it looks. There are only a handful of popular baby carrier styles and from there it is a simple matter of choosing the fabric you like best. Check out www.thebabycarriers.com

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Can anyone recommend a backpack baby carrier?

Sarah

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We used the Snugli Comfort Vent Baby Carrier, it wasn't to bad. You can read about my experience with it by following the link below.

best type of baby carrier or wrap?

Star L

Do you like baby front carriers, backpacks, wraps, mobi wraps or mei tai wraps?

Whats the easiest and most comfy wrap? or do you just carry your baby without one?

Answer
The worst I have tried is the babybjorn. HATE it. I don't think it is designed well for baby or for mom's back. I used it ONCE when my baby was less then 8 lbs & my back hurt within 15 mins. Not good. It was adjusted well, I knew it was as I had a good friend with me letting me borrow it. She had used it a lot. Plus it's pretty basic, not too hard to figure out. We readjusted & readjusted, I just hated it. My favorite overall is the Ergo, hands down. But each type has pros & cons & some are better for certain ages & depending on what you want from your carrier. If you want handsfree nursing with small babies then a stretchy wrap like Moby is the right answer. If you want to be able to wear baby for a wide array of ages & weights & for longer periods of time, then an Ergo is a better suggestion. It is more about what YOU want from a carrier then which carrier is best. Ergos are bulky - so they are hard to just tote along "in case". Ones that tote well are rind slings, peanut shell styles or continuous loop slings, but you need to be careful of those styles with very small babies & make sure they are positioned well. Mei tais' are more of a carrier then a wrap & are awesome if you want something that you can wear for a bit, is a bit more take along "just in case" as it's less bulky then an Ergo & they come in a ton of really gorgeous fabrics.

Like I said I do love my ergo - but the drawbacks are this...they aren't as pretty as many of the other types, they are definitely bulky, so it's not easy to just bring it along in case you might want to use it. i do keep mine in the car a lot, but even tucking it in the basket under the stroller fills the whole basket for me just about. They also are a bit pricey compared to some of the others. The pros are that it really does put the weight onto your hips, not your back. My 5 yr old can still fit in it & he is average size for age AND he is almost half my weight. I can carry him fine. My legs will burn, but my back doesn't feel a thing. You are NOT supposed to put a child that heavy in there, but it was at Disney & the little one was sleeping in the stroller & the big one was VERY tired...so you make due right? Anyway, it is rated to 45 lbs. It is also easy for me to put on my tiny petite frame (as in 100lbs) & in no time I can take it off, hand it to Dh & he can adjust it to fit his nearly 6 ft frame in just a minute. He had no trouble using it from day one. By that I mean he wasn't bothered by it because it wasn't girly AND he had no trouble getting it adjusted without instruction or confusion & my 1st son was worn by daddy a LOT. We have had ours nearly 5 yrs. We have used it & I have loaned twice to relatives. It has been laundered a LOT & it still looks basically new, despite being under almost constant use. My 1st child was in it EVERY day literally. It is how I got things done. He liked to be held, I needed to move. The only thing an Ergo won't do is allow a child to be in front forward facing. There is some controversy about having a baby set that way in a structured carrier anyway though, as many warn it could put pressure on the spine & hips to have them set on their crotch. I the ergo they set on their butt & their legs kind of wrap around you versus hang.

he funny thing I ONLY had an ergo with my 1st child & he loved it & so did I. baby #2 comes along & I thought a Moby would be nice for newborn stage - he hated it. So I got a slingling (continuous loop) and a friend let me borrow her babybjorn, then I got a Mei Tai (Baby Hawk) & Maya Wrap (ring sling), (I think this is when I needed rehab - but anyway), then I got one of the hip hold type (can't remember the name brand) and I got fed up! My child didn't love any of them & neither did I. When I first put him in the Ergo & he didn't really like it the way my 1st had - it never occurred to me that he might not like CARRIERS. Well that was it. He tolerated the Ergo better than any of the other ones I bought & we went back to that - plus that one felt good to my back & was easy to put on alone & take off. So I liked them all for different reasons (other than the bjorn) - but my baby hated them for some mysterious reason I cannot quantify. I have sold most of them or given them away & the only one I won't is my ergo. Until my ovaries shrivel & fall out, I will hold onto it "in case" because when it works, it works so well. My 2nd finally decided to like carriers when he was around 10 months old & at 26 months is now a pro in the ergo. When he wants in he calls it giddyup. :)

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I want a designer backpack?

Q. My parent's aren't wanting to spend more than like, idk, $100.00. But I really want a designer bag for school. I know they are there, I found a juicy tote for 88.00, and a marc for 58.00

Answer
There are a few sites online that deal with sample sale items from big designers. The majority of them are by invite only. The downside, in addition to the invite only, is they often only have a handful of a specific product because, after all, these are samples being sold. So you have to check them relatively regularly. For instance, last week, I saw a Hermes bag on one (granted it was ugly â baby blue, ick), but they only had the one. The bigger ticket items (dolce&gabanna, Versace, vera wang, burberry, etc.) have fewer while more accessible brands (bebe, jessica simpson, ed hardy, etc.) are easier to come by.

Beyond the Rack:
http://www.beyondtherack.com/member/invite/B5C883B1
HauteLook
http://www.hautelook.com/short/eLAV
Editorâs Closet
http://www.editorscloset.com/cust/membersignup.asp?rea=boycrazy3139@yahoo.com
Thereâs also Ideeli, which you donât need a referral for.

Help?! Trying to keep baby happy?

LP1128

I have been having alot of trouble keeping my 7 month old son entertained. I am going to school online and trying to take care of him and do school at the same time. My son is my priority but he wants to be held all the time! Can anyone help with ideas to keep him entertained and happy while I try to get some work done?

Answer
Breastfeeding! :)

Try a baby sling- or backpack. That way you can hold him and do your homework. :)

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best type of baby carrier or wrap?

Star L

Do you like baby front carriers, backpacks, wraps, mobi wraps or mei tai wraps?

Whats the easiest and most comfy wrap? or do you just carry your baby without one?

Answer
The worst I have tried is the babybjorn. HATE it. I don't think it is designed well for baby or for mom's back. I used it ONCE when my baby was less then 8 lbs & my back hurt within 15 mins. Not good. It was adjusted well, I knew it was as I had a good friend with me letting me borrow it. She had used it a lot. Plus it's pretty basic, not too hard to figure out. We readjusted & readjusted, I just hated it. My favorite overall is the Ergo, hands down. But each type has pros & cons & some are better for certain ages & depending on what you want from your carrier. If you want handsfree nursing with small babies then a stretchy wrap like Moby is the right answer. If you want to be able to wear baby for a wide array of ages & weights & for longer periods of time, then an Ergo is a better suggestion. It is more about what YOU want from a carrier then which carrier is best. Ergos are bulky - so they are hard to just tote along "in case". Ones that tote well are rind slings, peanut shell styles or continuous loop slings, but you need to be careful of those styles with very small babies & make sure they are positioned well. Mei tais' are more of a carrier then a wrap & are awesome if you want something that you can wear for a bit, is a bit more take along "just in case" as it's less bulky then an Ergo & they come in a ton of really gorgeous fabrics.

Like I said I do love my ergo - but the drawbacks are this...they aren't as pretty as many of the other types, they are definitely bulky, so it's not easy to just bring it along in case you might want to use it. i do keep mine in the car a lot, but even tucking it in the basket under the stroller fills the whole basket for me just about. They also are a bit pricey compared to some of the others. The pros are that it really does put the weight onto your hips, not your back. My 5 yr old can still fit in it & he is average size for age AND he is almost half my weight. I can carry him fine. My legs will burn, but my back doesn't feel a thing. You are NOT supposed to put a child that heavy in there, but it was at Disney & the little one was sleeping in the stroller & the big one was VERY tired...so you make due right? Anyway, it is rated to 45 lbs. It is also easy for me to put on my tiny petite frame (as in 100lbs) & in no time I can take it off, hand it to Dh & he can adjust it to fit his nearly 6 ft frame in just a minute. He had no trouble using it from day one. By that I mean he wasn't bothered by it because it wasn't girly AND he had no trouble getting it adjusted without instruction or confusion & my 1st son was worn by daddy a LOT. We have had ours nearly 5 yrs. We have used it & I have loaned twice to relatives. It has been laundered a LOT & it still looks basically new, despite being under almost constant use. My 1st child was in it EVERY day literally. It is how I got things done. He liked to be held, I needed to move. The only thing an Ergo won't do is allow a child to be in front forward facing. There is some controversy about having a baby set that way in a structured carrier anyway though, as many warn it could put pressure on the spine & hips to have them set on their crotch. I the ergo they set on their butt & their legs kind of wrap around you versus hang.

he funny thing I ONLY had an ergo with my 1st child & he loved it & so did I. baby #2 comes along & I thought a Moby would be nice for newborn stage - he hated it. So I got a slingling (continuous loop) and a friend let me borrow her babybjorn, then I got a Mei Tai (Baby Hawk) & Maya Wrap (ring sling), (I think this is when I needed rehab - but anyway), then I got one of the hip hold type (can't remember the name brand) and I got fed up! My child didn't love any of them & neither did I. When I first put him in the Ergo & he didn't really like it the way my 1st had - it never occurred to me that he might not like CARRIERS. Well that was it. He tolerated the Ergo better than any of the other ones I bought & we went back to that - plus that one felt good to my back & was easy to put on alone & take off. So I liked them all for different reasons (other than the bjorn) - but my baby hated them for some mysterious reason I cannot quantify. I have sold most of them or given them away & the only one I won't is my ergo. Until my ovaries shrivel & fall out, I will hold onto it "in case" because when it works, it works so well. My 2nd finally decided to like carriers when he was around 10 months old & at 26 months is now a pro in the ergo. When he wants in he calls it giddyup. :)

Are there any baby carriers that can be worn either front or backpack?

Sunny

My hubby and I are expecting our first baby and we wanted a baby carrier that can be worn in the front or the back. When I read about Baby Bjorns, it says "front or rear facing" but I'm thinking that means the baby can face inward or outward... are there any that can be worn in the front or back?

Answer
Wraps are the most versatile - you can carry baby on your front, back, or hip, and in different positions. If you'd prefer a structured carrier, the Ergo can go front or back.

There's a good selection and info. here - http://peppermint.com/index.html

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Tips on flying long haul with 14mth baby. Any advice?

Happy Fami

I will be flying from Melbourne, Australia to London UK with my baby daughter who will be 14 months. I have flown between the two cities before but never with baby. Will be flying Singapore Airlines (love them and apparently they are good for babies) and plan on going for three weeks (that's all the time off we can afford).


Things to consider:

1) Dont really want to give her sedatives
2) She is usually breastfed to sleep (which can be handy but also...tricky!)
3) I will be bringing portable DVD player, lots of nappies, plastic bags, small toys and get them out one at a time, will be using a baby carrier, books, wipes - that's all the advice I have so far...
Please share your experience and offer some helpful tips.

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I'm a former Flight Attendant and I fly a lot of long-haul flights with my three children.

I have never used sedatives. I'm allergic to a lot of them myself so I can't risk it with my kids, especially at 30,000ft. without an emergency room nearby. These are not harmless drugs and while I don't diss parents who use them on long journeys, it's not something that systematically should be done. There can be side effects. I've survived without. You can too.

Besides, on such a long flight, she'll sleep at some points anyway (10 minutes before landing lol!)

Sounds like you have had some good advice. All three of mine were breastfed and this actually will make your trip easier (the oldest did have some bottles but they're harder to travel with). It's a great way to calm them down when they get overtired, which often happens in airports.

Remember that you do NOT have to breastfeed her or make her drink on take-off and landing. This is an common myth. If you are using a car seat, be sure she's strapped in during those times. Mine flew in car seats and didn't take pacifiers and they never had any problems with their ears. Please don't wake your child unnecessarily and/or force her to drink when she doesn't want to.

The best way to avoid ear problems is to schedule a "well baby" visit right before leaving. Her ears will be checked to be sure that she doesn't have an ear infection or other blockage. Flying with something like that is painful. No amount of sucking will help and it can actually be damaging to the ears. These are problems that are easy to avoid and fix.

Speaking of car seats, I really recommend using one at this age. It really wasn't a big deal to bring it on board on a wire foldable luggage cart. I saw both my passengers and my own children were calmer and more settled in their familiar seat. If she doesn't have a seat, ask nicely at check-in if it's possible to get an extra place. Take it to the gate regardless and if you are not success, have your seat "gate-checked" with the strollers and wheelchairs. This is no guarantee but better than checking it at the desk. NEVER check a car seat as luggage. Airlines lose and break checked car seats all the time.

Here's the children's page from Singapore Airlines;
http://www.singaporeair.com/saa/en_UK/content/before/plan/specialneeds.jsp

If you don't need a car seat in London, you might want to look into the CARES harness, which is easy to bring and accepted on Singapore.
http://www.kidsflysafe.com/

Practice changing her standing up before leaving. You'll love this tip in London too where baby changers aren't that common. The changing tables on airplanes are really small and if you can change her in this position, you can use the roomier handicapped lav instead.

Don't forget to pack a couple of changes of clothes and be sure you have enough diapers. She'll go through more on this trip than she would in the same time frame at home. Often, you'll find yourself changing her when you can, rather than when it's necessary, such as right before boarding and landing. Wrap all this stuff in plastic and bind with rubber bands to make more room in your bag.

This is the bib I liked when travelling. It rinses out easily and dries quickly. I found taking this beat a bunch of disposable bibs, especially because it really kept mine clean. It really covers them up because kids get messy on planes. This company makes really bad baby carriers but this bib is great!
http://www.babycity.co.uk/baby-gifts/mealtimes-cutlery-highchairs-baby-bibs/baby-bjorn/baby-bjorn-eat-play-smock-pd-1155.html

Skip a purse and diaper bag and use a big backpack and a small purse around your neck with the essentials. Keep your hands free. I get a bigger backpack that goes up to my knee when placed on the floor. Both of you carry one, one with the extra supplies, and one with what you need. I also take a small cloth bag so that when I took them to change them, I didn't have to drag the whole bag along.

Are you sure she'll watch DVD's? Mine were way too active at that age to watch a screen and no way would they have worn the headsets. She absolutely has to wear them. Playing it over the speakers would be annoying to other passengers. Be really sure that she'll wear them before leaving. Otherwise, the new toys are a good idea. One right before the plane pushes back because that's a really bad time for toddlers to stay seated. Hopefully, it'll distract her and you can't use any electrical items during that time.

For more information, ten years ago I wrote an article on this subject. It's based on both my personal and professional experience of flying with children. It's totally non-commercial and other parents from around the world have contributed;
http://flyingwithchildren1.blogspot.com

It's a tricky age and a long flight but if you're organized, it'll be much easier.

Have a good visit to London!

Advice for taking our 19 month old son on a long-haul flight (30+ hours)?

Steven Jen

Hi, later this year my partner and I are taking our son who will be 19 months old on his first ever flight but I for one am dreading it as it is a long-haul flight going from New Zealand to the UK (via Australia/Singapore and possibly Dubai - depending on which airline we finally decide to book with) for a 3 week stay.

As most boys probably are, our son is very energetic, won't stay still very long at all and gets very bored easily so needs lots of entertaining.

The trip will be well worth it when we do get to the UK as our son has never met any of my side of the family who are all over there. So knowing that alone will help us cope somewhat with any stresses of flying with a young child.

Any advice/tip's/experiences shared etc to help ease the journey will be very much appreciated.

Thanks

Answer
I'm a former Flight Attendant and I fly transatlantics alone a lot with my three children.

This is a long flight and you're going to need to be organized. I wont lie to you and I have to admit that this was probably the worst age for air travel. They love to move but don't have the reasoning to talk about the fact that sometimes they have to be seated, etc.

I recommend that instead of a diaper bag, purse, etc. you opt for a large backpack. Mine goes up to my knee when placed on the ground. Bring at least two changes of clothes and way more diapers than he usually goes through in the same time frame. He will need more than usual. Take out packs of 10, straight from the pack so that they're really flat and put in a plastic bag, Bind with rubber bands and this will make space. Clothes are rolled, placed in plastic and also bound with rubber bands. Split the supplies between both of you in case you're separated or just so that one can take him somewhere without having to fuss with the gear.

My kids at that age were too active for portable DVD players, although they were useful later. You actually have a number of options as far as gadgets that play movies so find out what works for you and if you think it'll keep him occupied. One tip I got was to burn the movies on to your hard drive if you're bringing a computer to save battery time while watching. Make sure he wears the headphones. Practice at home if necessary.

I found simple toys worked best; toy trucks, toy cars, plastic animals, coloring things (magadoodles as well as old fashioned pens and paper), chunky books with openable flaps, pinwheels, plastic rings that click together, pipe cleaners, play dough, etc. Nothing that makes noise. Even a quiet noise played 10,000 will drive your fellow passengers batty. Make sure some of the toys are new (or at least never seen before) so you can "present" them at critical times, like to offset a tantrum and after the plane pulls away from the gate and everyone is supposed to be seated.

Try to get him off of bottles and on to a sippy cup if possible. But if he's like my son, good luck! Chances are he wont so opt for the bottles with disposable plastic liners. Get the flat liners (not "pop-ins"), premeasure the powder in each, roll it up and put in a ziplock.

I really recommend that he have his own seat. This is a LONG time to be on your laps and he's going to be big and heavy. If you opt to save money, try to get an empty seat on the plane beside you. They often do this for families. Be really nice at check-in.

I always fly with a car seat. This is a whole, big subject. Babies are quieter and more comfortable in their own familiar car seat, as well as much, much safer. It's not that big a deal to take it along. I simply strapped mine to a metal luggage cart and pulled it behind me with the carry-on bags. You do want to check your car seat's compatibility, before you book. Make sure you can use it on board. Different airlines have different rules.

Be sure not to check it as luggage. They often get lost and/or broken en route so either use it on board or gate-check it. You may want to arrange a car seat at your destination but please never use one from a rental car company. Have relatives ask around and make sure it's not too old.

I really recommend a good baby carrier. It is the secret to successfully flying with children. He's far too big for one of those dire "front packs" (like the Bjorn) but something comfortable and perhaps with a back carry is good. If you don't already use a sling or wrap, you may want to get a Mei Tai, Ergo, Beco or similar carrier. They're soft, easy to take along and are magic for calming overtired babies on flights (experience speaking!) Also, in big scary airports, toddlers don't always sit nicely in their strollers and want to be held. As a Flight Attendant, I saw far too many parents trying to get through airports with clingy and sleeping babies over their shoulders. Don't be one of them!

Please don't fret over ears. It's actually a myth that babies have to suck on something for take-off and landing. Sure, if you want to offer a cup to drink, not on landing but at the top of descent (landing is too late) when everyone's ears have to reverse pressure, do so. This is about an hour before. What I do recommend is that you schedule a doctor's visit and make sure he doesn't have any ear blockages or infections. These are dangerous and painful to fly with so just have someone look in his ears. We "caught" one in my toddler son once. But on the flight itself, there is no reason to unnecessarily wake up your child or force him to drink if he doesn't want to.

For more information, nine years ago I wrote an article on this subject. It's based on both my personal and professional experience of flying with children. It's totally non-commercial and other parents from around the world have contributed;
http://flyingwithchildren1.blogspot.com

Have a great tr

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What is a good baby shower theme?

ur mom

I need a baby shower theme for a boy and girl. And I need to no some gifts I should put on the registry and prizes for some games

Answer
Themes:
Some people go with themes others do not...they have abc themes, pooh, disney babies, jungle animals, monkeys, sea life, forest animals etc...

Gift ideas:
This is walmart.com checklist for a new baby:D

Crib or bassinet / co-sleeper
Waterproof crib liner
Crib mattress
Mattress pad
Fitted sheets (cotton or flannel)
Crib bedding set
Crib blankets (3-5)
Crib lights (2)
Receiving blankets (4-5)
Sleep positioner
Changing table
Changing pads and covers
Dresser / armoire
Rocking chair or gliding rocker
Ottoman or nursing stool
Hamper
Nursery monitor
Mobile
Crib mirror
Crib toys
Lamp
Rug
Toy box
Nursery storage
Window treatments
Clothing / Layette (for newborn to 6 months)
Home-from-the-hospital outfit
Pullover T-shirts
Side-snap T-shirts
Onesies or bodysuits
Layette sets
Sleeping gowns or stretchies
Footed rompers
Top and pant sets
Mittens
Blanket
Swaddlers
Baby laundry detergent
Lightweight cotton sweaters (2)
Booties and socks
Shoes (2)
Snowsuit (for winter babies)
Warm hats (2)
Baby hangers
Diapers
Diaper bag
Diaper pail and liners
Rash ointment and powders
Wipes
Wipes warmer
Travel pack wipes
Infant tub
Tub splash seat
Hooded towels (2-4)
Baby lotion
Baby oil
Baby shampoo
Bath toys
Tub toy pouch
Hooded towels (2-4)
Baby washcloths (4-6)
Tub thermometer
Elbow cushion
Foam tub insert
Tub spout cover
Bath gift set
Feeding
Plastic bottle (4 and 8 oz) nipples and nipple covers
Bottle sterilizer
Bottle liners
Breast pads, shields and cream
Nursing bras (4)
Nursing shirts (2)
Nursing cover-up
Breast pump kit
Lap pads and burp cloths
Nursing pillow
Nursing stool
Case(s) of formula
Bibs (6-10)
Teethers
Feeding spoons (4)
Training (spill-proof) cups (3-4)
Highchair
Highchair cover
Feeding seat
Pacifiers
Dishwasher-safe nipples
Bottle drying rack
Bowls
Bottle brush
Bottle warmer
Highchair splat mat
Dishwasher nipple basket
Travel formula dispenser
Milk storage bags
Gas relief drops
First-aid supplies
Thermometer
Humidifier
Baby brush and comb
Nail clippers
Nasal aspirator
Infant tooth and gum cleaner
Alcohol swabs
Baby fever reducer
Cotton swabs
Baby grooming kit
Shopping cart cover
Baby monitor
Safety gate
Nightlights
Carbon monoxide detector
Outlet covers
Corner covers
Door knob covers
Cabinet locks
Toilet seat locks
Baby harness
Fireplace cover
Toys
Bouncer seat
Swing
Rattles & Teethers
Gym or play mat
Jumper
Mobile for nursery
Activity center / walker
Car seat / stroller toys
Guide books on pregnancy, childbirth, breastfeeding and parenting
Lullaby music
Books for siblings
Educational music movies
Rear-facing infant car seat
Car seat head support
Stroller
Sling or soft carrier
Backpack carrier (for when baby outgrows soft carrier)
Portable crib
Playpen / playard
Stroller cup holder
Travel booster seat
Sunshade
Extra car seat base
Stroller frame
Toy auto mirror
Digital camera
Camcorder
Baby album
Baby journal
Picture frames
Disposable camera
Personalized gifts

Baby shower prizes:
Unique Shower Prize Ideas from ( http://www.cutest-baby-shower-ideas.com/baby-shower-prizes.html )



â¢Gift Certificates from a cute little boutique, coffee shop or book store

â¢Candles

â¢Lotions

â¢A Picture Frame

â¢A Recipe Box

â¢A Cool Mug From Starbucks

â¢Potted Plants

â¢Tea Cup, Saucer and Tea Bags

â¢Bath Salts and Bath Beads

â¢Cute Soaps

â¢Dish Towels

â¢Stationary

â¢Cool Kitchen Gadgets

â¢A Washcloth and Bar of Soap Tied Together With Raffia

â¢Baby Shaped Cookies

â¢Baby Themed Lollipops

â¢Polka Dot Painted Terra Cotta Pots - with seed packets in them

â¢Cute Little Handbags

Travelling with toddler and 5 month old?

bluevivid7

My husband and I were thinking of going on a vacation somewhere nice and warm. We have an almost 3 yr old and a 5 month old baby. Here are my questions:
1) Do my kids need passports? I live in Canada
2) Would my kids need car seats for the plane?
3) Any suggestions on a nice vacation with kids? Where is a good place to go? Please don't recommend Dinsey World. That is for when they get older.
4) Should I bring the babies stroller with us as luggage?
5) How much stuff to pack for both kids for a weeks vacation?
6) Should I buy diapers where ever I go instead of packing a weeks worth of diapers for the baby?
7) I breastfeed my baby and is it good to nurse while taking off in the plane and landing for his ears. Should I use a bottle on the plane as he will be in his car seat if he needs it?
Any advice would be nice. Thanks

Answer
1. If you're leaving the country, everyone needs a passport.
2. Technically no. BUT ... it's so much easier if you have one for the baby, especially on a long flight. (Definitely bring car seats, though, even if you choose to check them for the flight.)
3. No idea! I'm jealous ...
4. I prefer a backpack or something like an Ergo carrier, but I've used strollers in airports, too. You can check them at the gate as you board the plane.
5. Depends on whether you'll have a place to wash their clothes. Think about what they go through at home, and use that as a guide.
5. If you have room in your luggage, it's no biggie to pack them. I prefer to travel light, though, so I usually bring 2 days' worth of diapers in my carry-on (just in case we get stuck somewhere), and buy more when I get there.
7. Nursing during take-off and landing definitely helps their ears. A bottle or sippy-cup (for your older child) works, too. The flight attendants definitely prefer that you leave the baby in the car seat during those times, but they will also show you how to hold your baby safely. They will also bring you milk or juice before take-off if you need it for your older child.

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International travel with babies?

crystal_he

Planning on flying from the US to South East Asia with a 3 year old and a year old. Sigh.... what can I do to make this trip easier? It'll be Washington DC - NY - Frankfurt - Singapore - Surabaya, Indonesia with SQ (Singapore Airlines). Has anyone made a similar trip? How do you handle the babies?
Thanks in advance.

Answer
I had to do a lot of plane hopping with my little ones when I flew to Ireland (four planes to get there, five planes to get home). They were a bit older - but we also take frequent trips, and have been flying with the kids since they were infants.

I disagree with the other commenter. I never check my luggage. When jumping that many planes, there is a greater chance the airline will "lose" your bags. It is also a pain to wait for the luggage to come around when you have little ones who may be cranky or overstimulated. But if you are traveling alone, then checking it may be your best option, as you won't have to struggle with kids and bags through the airport. Just makes sure you pack a backpack or small carryon bag with extra clothes (at least one set for every person traveling) and any and ALL important supplies - diapers, medication, money, passports... Keep that with you, so if your luggage is lost, you are not stuck with nothing.

For the baby, make sure you have a pacifier or bottle, or something they can suck on while the plane is ascending or descending. The air pressure can hurt their ears, and the sucking will cause that pressure to pop. Some suckers might also be good, if the older child complains about the pressure.

Bring snack foods - granola bars, fruit, crackers... And a water bottle. Fill the water bottle before you get on the plane. But be careful not to let the kids eat and eat and eat out of boredom. There is nothing worse than a kid barfing on a plane.

Bring activities and toys - but nothing noisy that will disturb other flyers or make a mess (it's not easy cleaning up a tiny space with babies in the way). Coloring books and crayons for the older child. If your youngest is going to be a lap baby, then be prepared for another passenger being seated with you. If possible, try to keep the aisle seat, so you can get your kids to the bathroom without having to inconvenience anyone else.

Oh, and try not to stress out if your kids do get cranky and make a fuss. I can't recall any flights I have ever been on that there wasn't a baby crying or a child whining. It happens, and most people will be understanding. Those who aren't, well, ignore them. Just concentrate on your children.

Advice on travelling with 9 month old.?

jessie

Im planning a 7 day trip in June. Can anyone give me tips while travelling? EX: how to handle the baby while on flight; foods; did anyone take a stroller (if so - what type) or baby backpack (type you strap on)? any advice/suggestions are helpful. Thanks .

Answer
Think about your baby's schedule and plan around that!

I travel with a light stroller, but my sister-in-law travels with a backpack carrier, so it's whatever you prefer.

As far as flights and food, follow the airlines guidelines for carry on stuff. I put all my baby's powder formula in bottles and purchase water at the airport after we've checked in so I can prepare bottles in the airport or on the plane. I also buy their favorite foods in jars or plastic containers. All my kids loved baby food bananas so that is easy.

Here's a link to a page on my site that offers more info and tips on traveling with a baby. http://www.lifeorganizeit.com/flying-with-a-baby.html

Just remember to think about your baby's schedule and try to honor it as much as possible. Think too about what they like and don't like. Bring along stuff to entertain them too like a favorite cuddlie or toy.

Good luck!

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3 seater pram??

britjam

Im pregnant with baby number 3 and need a 3 seater pram as my daughter will be 3 and a half and my son 25 months when the new baby arrives. Just after some advice and whats good out there for a decent not to heavy 3 seater!!
Thanks

Answer
I have seen three seater prams before but they wouldn't be suitable for a newborn and 2 older toddlers. I would be going for a double stroller for the older kids if they still fit with their combined weight and put the baby in a carrier/harness/pouch on you. Or put the younger two in a double stroller/pram and get a walking harness/backpack for the oldest one to walk beside you without running off.

Phil and Teds prams make great double prams for babies and toddlers.
Or I found these.....
http://www.pocket-lint.co.uk/news/news.phtml/2798/3822/Inglesina-Domino-Triple-stroller-triplets.phtml
http://www.epinions.com/kifm-Twin_Strollers-Peg_Perego-Peg_Perego_Triplette/display_~reviews

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Advice on baby backpack carriers?

Julia P

Hello, anyone used baby backpack carriers while traveling by plane, which brand was it and was it allowed inside the plane? Thank you!

Answer
i donut reck mend dat yew put bby in a backpack becuz it mite suf or kate. b careful i donut think dis is normal. ppl will luk at yu lyk u r crazed so donut do it.

best type of baby carrier or wrap?

Star L

Do you like baby front carriers, backpacks, wraps, mobi wraps or mei tai wraps?

Whats the easiest and most comfy wrap? or do you just carry your baby without one?

Answer
The worst I have tried is the babybjorn. HATE it. I don't think it is designed well for baby or for mom's back. I used it ONCE when my baby was less then 8 lbs & my back hurt within 15 mins. Not good. It was adjusted well, I knew it was as I had a good friend with me letting me borrow it. She had used it a lot. Plus it's pretty basic, not too hard to figure out. We readjusted & readjusted, I just hated it. My favorite overall is the Ergo, hands down. But each type has pros & cons & some are better for certain ages & depending on what you want from your carrier. If you want handsfree nursing with small babies then a stretchy wrap like Moby is the right answer. If you want to be able to wear baby for a wide array of ages & weights & for longer periods of time, then an Ergo is a better suggestion. It is more about what YOU want from a carrier then which carrier is best. Ergos are bulky - so they are hard to just tote along "in case". Ones that tote well are rind slings, peanut shell styles or continuous loop slings, but you need to be careful of those styles with very small babies & make sure they are positioned well. Mei tais' are more of a carrier then a wrap & are awesome if you want something that you can wear for a bit, is a bit more take along "just in case" as it's less bulky then an Ergo & they come in a ton of really gorgeous fabrics.

Like I said I do love my ergo - but the drawbacks are this...they aren't as pretty as many of the other types, they are definitely bulky, so it's not easy to just bring it along in case you might want to use it. i do keep mine in the car a lot, but even tucking it in the basket under the stroller fills the whole basket for me just about. They also are a bit pricey compared to some of the others. The pros are that it really does put the weight onto your hips, not your back. My 5 yr old can still fit in it & he is average size for age AND he is almost half my weight. I can carry him fine. My legs will burn, but my back doesn't feel a thing. You are NOT supposed to put a child that heavy in there, but it was at Disney & the little one was sleeping in the stroller & the big one was VERY tired...so you make due right? Anyway, it is rated to 45 lbs. It is also easy for me to put on my tiny petite frame (as in 100lbs) & in no time I can take it off, hand it to Dh & he can adjust it to fit his nearly 6 ft frame in just a minute. He had no trouble using it from day one. By that I mean he wasn't bothered by it because it wasn't girly AND he had no trouble getting it adjusted without instruction or confusion & my 1st son was worn by daddy a LOT. We have had ours nearly 5 yrs. We have used it & I have loaned twice to relatives. It has been laundered a LOT & it still looks basically new, despite being under almost constant use. My 1st child was in it EVERY day literally. It is how I got things done. He liked to be held, I needed to move. The only thing an Ergo won't do is allow a child to be in front forward facing. There is some controversy about having a baby set that way in a structured carrier anyway though, as many warn it could put pressure on the spine & hips to have them set on their crotch. I the ergo they set on their butt & their legs kind of wrap around you versus hang.

he funny thing I ONLY had an ergo with my 1st child & he loved it & so did I. baby #2 comes along & I thought a Moby would be nice for newborn stage - he hated it. So I got a slingling (continuous loop) and a friend let me borrow her babybjorn, then I got a Mei Tai (Baby Hawk) & Maya Wrap (ring sling), (I think this is when I needed rehab - but anyway), then I got one of the hip hold type (can't remember the name brand) and I got fed up! My child didn't love any of them & neither did I. When I first put him in the Ergo & he didn't really like it the way my 1st had - it never occurred to me that he might not like CARRIERS. Well that was it. He tolerated the Ergo better than any of the other ones I bought & we went back to that - plus that one felt good to my back & was easy to put on alone & take off. So I liked them all for different reasons (other than the bjorn) - but my baby hated them for some mysterious reason I cannot quantify. I have sold most of them or given them away & the only one I won't is my ergo. Until my ovaries shrivel & fall out, I will hold onto it "in case" because when it works, it works so well. My 2nd finally decided to like carriers when he was around 10 months old & at 26 months is now a pro in the ergo. When he wants in he calls it giddyup. :)

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Men with baby carrier?

chicabonit

My husband has no problem with wearing a baby carrier (with one of our babies in it of course) in public. He prefers type with the baby on the front because he can't see the baby when it is in the "backpack" style carrier. We have twins and went to a housewarming for a friend. We live in New York, so we took the subway - each of us with one of our boys in the carrier on the front. When we arrived, I noticed a few women snickering about something, but thought nothing of it. Later, my friend told me they were commenting about how "stupid" my husband looked with the baby carrier, and they are only for women?? Personally, I find it cute - and it is the most convenient - and safest - way to transport our children on the subway. What do you think of men wearing a baby carrier?

Answer
I think the people at the party need to grow up. Men are just a nurturing as women. We are always pushed into roles of violence and disregard. A carrier is a great way to bond with the baby. Not only is it safe as you mentioned, its hands free living. Why is it both parents created the baby, but only one is allowed to care for him/her? I hope you won't continue to surround yourself with these negative neanderthals. Congrats on the twins also.

Why is my baby trying to kill me?

chloe

She's a sweet adorable baby, who loves everyone. She likes to hug and kiss, and cuddle, and she's such a good baby but..

She's almost 10 months, and still wakes up every hour or two at night to nurse. She hardly sleeps all day, and when she does, I have to be next to her because she won't sleep in her crib EVER, and I don't want her to fall of the bed.
In order for her to have her solids, i have to sing dance, and tell her stories, or she won't eat.
She won't stay in her playpen for more than 3 minutes, she won't sit in her high chair, or in her crib. I have to cook, clean and eat while holding her in my arms. I guess she's teething now, because it's gotten a little worse, and I feel like pulling my hair out.
I get no sleep, no time to eat, or take care of myself at all. I have no time for anything at all, not even my poor husband, and basically everything I do, has to be done with a baby hanging from my breast.

This is my first baby. Are all babies like that?
Adrianne, I'm not asking for your sympathy, I just wanted to know if all babies are so difficult. And I know my precious little angel isn't trying to kill me. I'm joking. Relax ok!
LG, thank you so much, I never expected such wonderful and understanding words from a person that doesn't have kids. You're going to make a great father one day.
Tanya, Thank you thank you, thank you!! I checked out the link you gave me, and I thought they were talking about my baby. I feel so much better having read that it's not my fault, and I'm not spoiling her. I could just hug you, and Dr Sears!

Answer
#1 SLEEP
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Baby proof your bed, put one side against the wall and for the other side by one of the "bed rails" that just slips under the mattress. Pretty soon she will be old enough to climb on and off the bed on her own. OR babyproof her room (bolt furniture to the wall, block outlets and make sure anything plugged in cannot be unplugged.) and get a twin mattress for her floor, get rid of the crib ;-). Then she can't "fall" out of the bed in her room and you can nurse her to sleep.

Also if you cosleep at night, as I do, consider using the crib as a sidecar. Remove the drop side and attach the crib to the side of the bed, you need to make sure the mattresses remain snug together, usually you have to put some padding between the far side of the crib mattress and the bars (I use some old rolled up sheets for mattress sizes I don't have anymore -but I just can't throw out sheets *sigh*)

Also it is developmentally normal for many breastfed babies to still be waking at night to nurse. Mine was up about every 1-3 hours at the age. Less often once I was actually in bed for the night. Of course going in to nurse baby back to sleep every 90 minutes means I didn't get much done in the evenings. Frequent night waking is particularly common in babies who don't nurse well during the day because they are too busy. I have yet to see even one piece of research that suggests ANY health or developmental benefits for a baby or toddler to sleep through the night. I have seen many studies that show it is normal, reduces SIDS risk, and encourages proper brain development. It was around 14 months that my son started going 4-6 hours one stretch at night. Now at 18 months he's good for 7-8 but before that he is up every 1-2 hours (until I go to bed) and after that he is snack, snack, snack.

If the sleep arrangement either the co-sleeping or the frequency of night feedings is bothersome to you many moms have success with this book:
http://amazon.com/s/ref=nb_ss_gw/002-1801174-3708019?initialSearch=1&url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=no+cry+sleep+solution+Pantley&Go.x=0&Go.y=0&Go=Go

#2 FOOD
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Just stop driving yourself nuts! She doesn't *need* anything except breastmilk. Until age 1 or later solids are for fun, socializing and learning. And right now she is probably having fun and learning how to train mommy but not really learning much about solids.

Offer her food, preferably real foods not baby foods that she can feed herself. And sit there and share them. If she eats she eats, if she doesn't she doesn't. Also this makes you eat healthier. Lots of fruit and veggies, limit salt and sugar. My son ate about 4-5 days per week, and only one meal between ages 10-12 months. After 12 months he started eating a lot more, probably because I got pregnant and morning sickness effected my supply.

Why safe feeding is safe and beneficial for breastfed babies
http://www.borstvoeding.com/voedselintroductie/vast_voedsel/rapley_guidelines.html#choke

http://www.askdrsears.com/faq/bf4.asp
This means that infants can go for at least a year on breast milk alone, without eating any foods, and be nutritionally complete. Offering foods between 6 and 12 months of age is simply for social development and to get infants used to eating.

Nourishing a baby (some of this page is useful, some I disagree with, worth a read though)
http://www.westonaprice.org/children/nourish-baby.html


#3 "Velcro" baby.
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Can you put her in a back-style carrier? Either a backpack or a wrap? That can allow you to cook and do the dishes.

Let her "help" fold the laundry. (I let my son throw all the socks and underwear into a basket). She can "help" sweep, dust, etc too.

Spend more time actually interacting in the morning, singing songs, games, flashcards, whatever. Sometimes if you pay upfront they are more likely to let you walk away for a few minutes ;). Also these books have some great really short exercises to break up the day (and by short I mean like 30seconds to 3 minutes). http://www.gentlerevolution.com/mm5/merchant.mvc?Screen=CTGY&Store_Code=G&Category_Code=B4
(BTW these books are available at most bookstores, there is just a bit more info on them here. And of course reviews on amazon so you don't have to just take my word for it)


#4 Independence
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Your almost there, soon your baby will be off walking around, disassembling the humidifier, building block towers and assembling lego. Of course she'll still check in every 10 minutes if she's like my toddler (hehe unless he is in something he shouldn't be).

By meeting her needs now you really, really ARE making her more independent in the long run!

#5 Some other advice:
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Get out of the house! Go to the park for an hour every day, join mommy groups. Walk around the mall. The break is good for you and generally toddlers respond well to a little stimulation.







http://www.kathydettwyler.org/detsleepthrough.html
The same is true of sleeping. Human children are designed to be sleeping with their parents. The sense of touch is the most important sense to primates, along with sight. Young primates are carried on their mother's body and sleep with her for years after birth, often until well after weaning. The expected pattern is for mother and child to sleep together, and for child to be able to nurse whenever they want during the night. Normal, healthy, breastfed and co-sleeping children do not sleep "through the night" (say 7-9 hours at a stretch) until they are 3-4 years old, and no longer need night nursing. I repeat -- this is NORMAL and HEALTHY. Dr. James McKenna's research on co-sleeping clearly shows the dangers of solitary sleeping in young infants, who slip into abnormal patterns of very deep sleep from which it is very difficult for them to rouse themselves when they experience an episode of apnea (stop breathing). When co-sleeping, the mother is monitoring the baby's sleep and breathing patterns, even though she herself is asleep. When the baby has an episode of apnea, she rouses the baby by her movements and touch. This is thought to be the primary mechanism by which co-sleeping protects children from Sudden Infant Death Syndrome. In other words, many cases of SIDS in solitary sleeping children are thought to be due to them having learned to sleep for long stretches at a time at a very early age, so they find themselves in these deep troughs of sleep, then they may experience an episode of apnea, and no one is there to notice or rouse them from it, so they just never start breathing again. Co-sleeping also allows a mother to monitor the baby's temperature during the night, to be there if they spit up and start to choke, and just to provide the normal, safe environment that the baby/child has been designed to expect.

[...]

Human children are designed (whether you believe by millions of years of evolution, or by God, it doesn't matter) -- to nurse *very* frequently, based on the composition of the milk of the species, the fact that all higher primates (Primates are the zoological Order to which humans belong, higher primates include monkeys and apes) keep their offspring in the mother's arms or on her back for several years, the size of the young child's stomach, the rapidity with which breast milk is digested, the need for an almost constant source of nutrients to grow that huge brain (in humans, especially), and so on. By very frequently, I mean 3-4 times per hour, for a few minutes each time. The way in which some young infants are fed in our culture -- trying to get them to shift to a 3-4 hour schedule, with feedings of 15-20 minutes at a time, goes against our basic physiology. But humans are very adaptable, and some mothers will be able to make sufficient milk with this very infrequent stimulation and draining of the breasts, and some children will be able to adapt to large meals spaced far apart. Unfortunately, some mothers don't make enough milk with this little nursing, and some babies can't adjust, and so are fussy, cry a lot, seem to want to nurse "before it is time" and fail to grow and thrive. Of course, usually the mother's body is blamed -- "You can't make enough milk" -- rather than the culturally-imposed expectation that feeding every 3-4 hours should be sufficient, and the mother begins supplementing with formula, which leads to a steady spiral downward to complete weaning from the breast.


Are you feeling overwhelmed by your child's intense needs?
http://www.kellymom.com/parenting/velcrochild.html


Nursing All the Time
Frequent feedings may be biologically more normal than the three-or four-hour schedule new parents expect
http://www.todaysparent.com/article.jsp?content=1266685

Straight Talk About Real Babies
Defining New-mom Expectations
http://breastfeed.com/resources/articles/expectation.htm

So I Nursed Him Every 45 Minutes
By Elizabeth N. Baldwin, Esq.
http://www.llli.org//NB/Law45com.html

ATTACHMENT PARENTING INDEX
http://www.askdrsears.com/html/10/t130100.asp

HIGH NEED BABIES
http://www.askdrsears.com/html/5/t050100.asp

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