Saturday, March 22, 2014

When was your baby strong enough to be carried in a hiking backpack carrier?




Mary


My baby is six and a half months old, and can sit for about a minute or two unassisted before she tips! Should she be sitting really securely before she goes into one?

Can you recommend a good one?
I've got a baby bjorn active which I love, it's just my baby is in a phase where she wants to be held all day. She doesn't like not being able to see, so she breaks her neck in the bjorn if she's facing me. If she's facing out, she grabs everything! I'm wondering if a back pack carrier is a solution.



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I had my sons in backpacks at that age. I would put little blankets on each side to keep them straight until they were strong enough to do it themselves.

I can not recommend a carrier only because I use mine for little things (ball games, grocery store) I do not know about backpacks for hiking...but I do know they have some really great ones out there!

P.S. Carriers in the front are great, but if you have a fat baby they do hurt your back after a while in front carriers. So, I always had to move my children to the backpacks.

Have fun!!

What baby backpack carrier have you used?




oceanxstas


I need to purchase a baby backpack type carrier for our upcoming vacation. My little one will be 14 months old by then. She currently weighs around 25 pounds. Suggestions, critiques needed. Thanks


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We have a Patapum baby carrier - which can be both front and back carry.
It's a soft carrier, very comfortable for both myself and my partner to wear our 11.5 month old daughter (approx 24lbs.)

We have used snugglys and slings, and have tried wraps, but the carrier is our favourite (for an older baby especially) - as it positions their weight perfectly, and you can easily walk around for 2+ hours with no twinges or aches.

Comes in blue, black and khaki - we have the khaki.
http://www.attachedtobaby.com/Patapum-Baby-Carrier-P5.aspx

Couldn't recommend it enough.




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what's the best baby "backpack" or carrier to use??




aidensmomm


I have an 8 month old, and I'm 5 months pregnant with my second child; I'm having a hard time carrying my baby now, especially up and down 3 flights of stairs, and it's breaking my heart...which carrier would be the best for me in my condition? I don't want to have to rely on other people to keep carrying MY child.


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If any of your friends have carriers I would definitely ask them if you can try them out for the day. I bought a 3 way carrier for my son (ie front facing you, front facing out or on ur back) but found it was difficult to put on (clips AND velcro) got quite hot and hurt my back. I had the opportunity to try my sis-in-laws Ergo carrier recently and it was great! So comfortable & barely felt like I was carrying him (9kgs worth of 10 month old!) Am definitely buying an Ergo for the next bub (or maybe even this one yet!) They also have a hiking-type backpack - the kind with a frame - for their 15 month old & he loves it & my brother says it's awesome.

Baby Carrier for hiking??




Aghbaybay


Hello- I'm looking to start going on some hikes with my 6 month old daughter.

I've heard of using the soft backpack style ones like ERGO or BECO...but are the bigger ones like that look like a huge backpack and have metal on them and everything more comfortable??

Which kind is better? OR what other one do you recommend?

I have a pouch sling- but I don't think that would work that well.



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I have a backpack carrier, it is one of the big ones with a metal frame, but it weighs almost nothing and is great for hiking. It is a Kelty brand and was one of my best purchases. I have a Bijorn and several slings, but for extended hiking I cannot carry in one of those.

Also, Maya is 3 and we can still carry her in the pack comfortably, which is nice. So, yes, they are MUCH more comfortable and I could even kind of forget she was up there.

Also, you can adjust the band that goes around your waist, so if you are feeling pressure in one part of your shoulders or back you pull a strap, and you can carry the weight totally differently.

If you do a lot of hiking then one of these is a must. Check Craigslist or local second hand stores as well. You can got one for $50 instead of $200. Babies r Us has them on display as well. You can put your daughter in it and try it on.




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Friday, March 21, 2014

Travelling overseas with an infant?




Elisabeth


I would like to bring my 3 boys who will be almost 5, 2.5, and 7-8 months next summer when I would like to visit family in France. My father and sister have never met any of our boys and I would like for them to meet their cousins. They aren't financially able to come here, so it would only be possible if we went there. My problem lies in the fact that my youngest will be so young when we travel next summer, as well as my rambunctious older boys. Do you think it will be possible? Do you have any suggestions for a long plane ride, which will be approximately 13 hours total.


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Bien sûr!

I take my three children approximately the same age alone on 11 1/2 hour flights about twice a year. I've been doing this since each was 4 months old and like yours', mine are close in age.

I get a seat for my youngest. Once I flew Air France and they wouldn't guarantee that I could use my car seat so I flew with my 4 month old as a "lap baby". This is much less safe. Both for comfort and safety, having the seat is important. I don't know how I could have dealt with three small children without somewhere to put the little one. So now I book with Lufthansa and United, who let me use my American car seats on board.

Another reason to avoid Air France is the fact they let you bring your stroller to the gate but then they check it all the way through to your destination. Unless your final stop is Paris, you'll find yourself having to negotiate Charles de Gualle airport without a stroller and three small children. No thanks!

Your 2 1/2 year old can sit in the seat but you may want to look into a CARES harness.
http://www.kidsflysafe.com/
You can rent one on Ebay or Craigslist, especially if you're in N. America, if you don't want to buy one.

Arrange a car seat for your middle child and a booster for your oldest in France. Don't use car seats provided by a rental car company. These are really dire here in France.

Make sure you have a good baby carrier. Awful front packs like the Bjorn are too small. I had a sling and I could carry either of two children in it and it went to age 3. You might also look into a front/back soft carrier, like the Ergo. A wrap or pouch is also good. This way, my children alternated walking (those who could), riding in the stroller or were carried. As a Flight Attendant, I saw too many parents dashing through airports carrying heavy toddlers and babies. Don't be one of them!

I was able to manage with a single stroller but you can bring your double. Any stroller that folds is usually acceptable (but check your airlines' website).

I was able to manage with a big backpack and a diaper bag when I had two in diapers. I wrapped the diapers in plastic bags and bound them with rubber bands to make room in my carry-on.

I usually had a few brand new toys to give the older children, once we were on the plane. I also brought quiet, easy-to-pack toys like coloring things, stickers, pipe cleaners, small plastic animals or cars, etc. I found that simple things kept them occupied best. I did get a portable DVD player once they were older but my kids were not good "screen watchers" and not good about wearing the headphones (don't even think about playing it over the speakers).

For more information, nine years ago I wrote an article on this subject. It's based on both my personal and professional experience of flying with children. It's totally non-commercial and other parents from around the world have contributed;
http://flyingwithchildren1.blogspot.com

C'est en anglais mais n'hestiatez pas de me contacter si vous avez encore des questions. Mon email est à la fin d'article. Je suis en France depuis 13 ans.

Bonne chance!




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Thursday, March 20, 2014

Travelling in Europe with a baby. What gear should I bring?




Mandi


I am going on a winter vacation around Europe for a couple weeks with a baby who will be almost two. I am looking for a stroller that works well on cobblestone, reclines, and is light. My son was born with a brain condition called Hydrocephalus and because of that his head is large and he is behind with his gross motor skills. He probably will still not be walking by this time. I am thinking about bringing a baby hiking backpack for times when we cannot use the stroller.

I would really appreciate advice on this from anyone who has ever travelled in Europe with a baby before! We will be going to about 5 different countries and travelling by metro and plane.



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I think a light stroller is a good idea as it will be easy to fold up if you're in a restaurant or on public transport. If you're flying between countries consider a buggy bag to put it in before the flight.

Not all of Europe is covered in cobblestones(!) and most cities are fairly buggy friendly. If you're coming in winter then have a buggy with a foot muff to keep him warm. A back carrier is also a good idea for busier places or say certain sights like the coliseum where there are steps.

You can buy the other things you need here, nappies etc. Pampers and Huggies are both available across Europe (Pampers are called Dodots in Spain). There are a mix of facilities in terms of baby changing. In the UK and northern Europe, most places have change tables. In some mediteranean countries there can be less facilites in places like restaurants but if you head to big department stores or shopping centres most are well equipped.

If you plan to eat in restaurants, a fabric type fold away change seat is a good idea as some smaller may not have high chairs (most UK places will have high chairs).

good luck and have a great time here.

Period during vacation (GIRLS ONLY PLEASE)?




Rachel Kat


Hi! so, kinda awks question but here goes nothing.

i'm gonna be having my period during my vacation. the plane ride is extremely long, and there are long car rides etc. so what should i do? also, i'm sharing a bathroom with my mom and dad and i'm afraid to dispose of the dirty pads and that i'll stain the place and stuff. also, i dont use tampons. should i just carry a backpack around with me to put the necessary changing stuff in or what?

what should i do? :) thanks a bunch, dolls!
also, should i put a towel under me while sleeping in case i leak? :]



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Buy some of those baby nappy bags. They also smell nice too, so it will hide the smell of a used pad. then all you do is tie a knot in it and dispose in a bin :)




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Tuesday, March 18, 2014

Suggestions for a baby/toddler backpack?




Silly Momm


My husband and I are planning on doing some camping/backpacking once the weather warms up (it's still snowing where we live and we're beginning to wonder what Spring is) and we are in need of a baby/toddler backpack. My son is 10 months old and weighs in at a nice, healthy 35 pounds so an INFANT carrier is out of the question. He is much to heavy for those. I am referring to the ones with a large frame that carry ~50 pounds or more. I have no idea what names are good and reliable and research I've done hasn't turned up very good answers. Anyone with a suggestion, please let me hear it! Thanks!


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We have a Kelty Kids backpack. It is wonderful. It is quite comfortable to wear, easy to put on and my son loves being in it (he's 14 months and around 25-30lbs). We camp and it is a lifesaver --- we bought it to use in place of our Ergo carrier on long hikes/camping.

It is like this one:
http://www.kelty.com/p-283-fc-10.aspx


We managed to find a gently used one on craiglist for about half of the new price.

Would you take a baby Hiking carrier to DisneyWorld and use it?




Holly


Were attempting our tradition of taking our kids to Disney World and this time were taking 2 babies ages 9 months and 21 months. We have older kids going to help but with 2 babies Imnot sure whats easiest. 2 single strollers,or one double that one seat wont lay back all the way just angled and a carrier? The carrier is hiking style,light weight and comfy,canopy and all. Would it be hardest and can you wear it in lines for rides? How do you wait in lines holding babies?? Any info would be great in how you got around with babies. Thanks


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a double stroller can be a challange when working your way through crowds and if you are going to have to bring a hiking carrier if you bring the double stroller then what is the point of using a double stroller anyways ya know?
whether you can bring the carrier in line and on the ride really depends on how big it is. if its no larger than a large backpack then you should be able to bring it on the rides (as longas you take the child out of it first) and you can set it on the floor or on the seat next to you.
personally i would just bring 2 single strollers. this way each baby has their own space and can lay back when they need a nap.
plus as light weight as they make carriers now its still not going to be a comfortable thing for you to have on your back with a 9 month old in it ALL DAY.
when you are waiting in line you can take turns with your husband with the 9 month old and the 21 month old should be able to stand/sit on the ground for the most part and be held in a line only when they start trying to wander away from you.

families do this literally EVERY DAY in disney world and it all works out fine and i'm sure your trip will be great!




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Where can I find a child carrier like this?




Its Okay E


Im trying to find a site where they sell the baby carrier backpacks, they are cloth and usually tan there is no metal frame of anything. Does anyone know where to find one?


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DO NOT GET THE SNUGLI, bjorn, or others like this. They are bad for babies spine and hips, and soon hurt mom's back. Good ones that distribute weight correctly are the Ergo, the Baby Hawk, the Beco and similar brands. You pay much more, but you can comfortably carry a 25 pound 2 year old in these carriers. The good carriers have baby sitting on their bums, the snugli dangles baby from the crotch.
http://www.attachedtobaby.com/Buckle-Carriers-C5.aspx
I have used the Ergo for a 25 pound 2 year old, and I loved my ring sling from this site. I'm now using a Baby Hawk Oh Snap for the 2 yr old, I'm in a baby wearing network in town and we all share slings and carriers.

best infant carrier?




Elizabeth<


which ones did you use and have good experience with?
oops lol should of been specific. like baby bjorn carriers and things like that not a car seat.



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Did you mean infant car seat or infant carrier like a sling/backpack type carrier?

I use the Ergo carrier. It was recommended to me by my best friend who had a 10.5 lb baby and had back issues before said baby. She very much like attachment parenting (where the parent wears the child for extended periods of time) for her babies as they responded very well to the contact. She had tried several types and found the Ergo to be the only one that didn't leave her crippled.

I like it because it is very versatile. When my daughter was a newborn, I used the infant insert and wore her in a sling-type position. Now that she is older, I wear her on my front facing me (The one drawback to the Ergo is that you can't face the baby outwards). My husband, however, prefers to wear her on his back. She has always been comfortable in the Ergo and tends to fall asleep in it. Yeah! I have not had any back problems and my baby is BIG (9.5 lbs at birth). HTH




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Advice on picking a baby sling?




Ashley


I am a mom of a 15 month old and due with our second child in 10 weeks. I keep thinking that a baby sling would be a good idea as I need to have my hands free for my son as much as possible he is a very busy boy!. I like the types the idea of the "wrap/hammock" style slings vrs the ones that are like a little front backpack but ive never used one so what do I really know. I'm a stay at home mom and my husband works construction so cost is an issue and something that my grandmother could make on her sewing machine(that would be SAFE) would be terrific!!!
Thanks ladies(and guys) you're great as always



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Seven Slings looked good, about $12 in cost. I have a similar one,a Slingling pouch and LOVE IT. Again, these are under $20. AVOID the front carriers like Baby Bjorn, these are 'crotch-danglers' and harm baby's hip and spine. Also, avoid tube slings like the Infantano that caused so many problems :( Basically, attachedtobaby website sells only quality safe slings. Front carriers like Ergo are safe, but cost more. Baby sits in a 'pouch' in these, instead of on the crotch like with the cheap Baby Bjorn carrier you find in stores. Mine is still in his pouch at age 14 months, also we use a ring-style sling. Maya Wraps are easy to make, but fabric is costly and you MUST buy special rings online from REPUTABLE dealers. I have one from the attachdtobaby, and love the adjustability. Both hubby and I can use this sling (I bought one in brown, safe for boy or girl or grandpa or grandma!)

Baby carries in hot weather...?




Grant's Mo


I want a nice baby carrier (not a backpack style...more of a wrap or mei tai style) that is not hot. I live in Central Florida and I don't want my baby to roast but I want him in a carrier.


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If you like wraps, similar to the moby wrap, you can use crinkly gauze material in the hot weather. Simply buy 5 or 6 yards of the fabric and cut it in half lenghtwise so that it is about 20" wide. Ta da! Two wraps! It's much cheaper than buying.




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3 seater pram??




britjam


Im pregnant with baby number 3 and need a 3 seater pram as my daughter will be 3 and a half and my son 25 months when the new baby arrives. Just after some advice and whats good out there for a decent not to heavy 3 seater!!
Thanks



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I have seen three seater prams before but they wouldn't be suitable for a newborn and 2 older toddlers. I would be going for a double stroller for the older kids if they still fit with their combined weight and put the baby in a carrier/harness/pouch on you. Or put the younger two in a double stroller/pram and get a walking harness/backpack for the oldest one to walk beside you without running off.

Phil and Teds prams make great double prams for babies and toddlers.
Or I found these.....
http://www.pocket-lint.co.uk/news/news.phtml/2798/3822/Inglesina-Domino-Triple-stroller-triplets.phtml
http://www.epinions.com/kifm-Twin_Strollers-Peg_Perego-Peg_Perego_Triplette/display_~reviews

What stroller would you recommend?




Kaydi


I just found out that I am expecting my 4th. I have a 2 1/2 year old that'll be 3 shortly before the baby is due.

What kind of stroller would you recommend for the infant & toddler?
Obviously, I know a double stroller.... which one?



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My two year old hates strollers always had so I hadn't bothered with a double stroller. I kept playing with the idea of a sit 'n' stand but if the toddler is in the stroller its either because he's sleeping OR he is misbehaving.

Then I finally had to go grocery shopping without my hubby or car and I wasn't up to putting my 10 month old in the backpack carrier so I dragged the double stroller I got for free up from the basement. It was a death trap (jolly jumper) but my toddler *loved* being in a stroller with is brother. And of course winter is coming.

I hear great things about the BOB strollers but they just aren't in the budget. So it came down to the Graco DuoGlider or the Graco Quattro. The Quattro is a bit nicer and it is a bit less long when folder (but I think the 20% claim is pretty far wrong) but its thicker when folded). The Quattro has shocks and a couple of extra cup holders but no tray for the front seat (two cup holder OR a thin padded bar but not both). The DuoGilder was on sale and the Quattro was just not "twice the price" nicer.

The only complaint to so far with the DuoGlider is that the handle is a tiny bit high but then again I'm 5'2". Some people prefer the quattro because the handle dips in the middle so you can sort of pick your handle height (then again you can't lean on it). Oh and the quattro is 10lbs heavier (29 lbs vs 19 I think)

The Quattro gets slightly better review but some reviews who have had both prefer the DuoGlider.

Anyway in the US the DuoGlider is I think about $100 normal price and I don't think you can beat that for a double stroller with a cup holder for everyone and lots of other neat features.




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What age can a baby be carried in a backpack carrier?




mica.dance


I am looking to purchase an Ergo Baby Carrier, it can be worn on the front, hip and as a backpack. My baby is 5 months old and i was wondering if she'd be able to be in it as a backpack.


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Until the baby san sit up on its own its best to carry on the front or hip

baby carriers vs. baby sling?




1andonly


whats the difference? which one is better on your back (less pulling on ur back). i used a carrier once when my son was 3 months just to walk around the store and my back was killing me after just after about 30 minutes. i plan on using either one almost everyday. so any thing that anyone knows about them or has experienced with them please share. thank you.


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My mom had an old fashioned ring sling when I was a kid, and when I was a teen and babysitting I used that quite a bit when they got to be toddler age. Now, the slings today may be different, but the fact that it pulled on one shoulder more than the other was rather painful. There's a reason backpacks have two straps, and when you focus the pressure on one side then it does pull you to the side. It was nice, I'd use it again, but there's better.

I used a cheap carrier with my daughter and I would be hurting badly by the time I had walked around 10-20 minutes, so I definitely hear you there. But with my second I bought an Ergo. It's designed to be better on your back and on theirs. Also, it goes to 40lbs, can be used in a side-hip position, and a back position so I figured if I did want the baby in the side hip position then that wouldn't be an issue. My son absolutely loved it and I liked being able to kiss his head, have him look around, and basically have him in a very natural position on me. He was centered on me so there was no pulling to one side and I basically felt secure with him in that position. When he got to over 20lbs then wearing him for anything longer than 60 minutes would wear my back out, but still not bad. He's close to 30lbs now and I still wear him for 30-60 minutes when we go out, it's not that bad. He still loves it too, and he's over a year.

So that's another benefit I'd say. Mine, I've used with my 4 year old putting her on my back when she gets tired on hikes. The other carrier I had (the cheap one) only really worked until she was 9 months old, and slings have an even shorter lifespan from my experience (unless you use them as a toddler hip hugger...)




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Attachment Parents, what baby gear did you use?




Army Bride


Trying to figure out how much of this is just 'fluff'. Sorry so much is listed. If its easier you can just copy/paste the list and delete out the entries you didn't use. Also, if you have the time, please list reasons why you used or didn't use certain items. THANK YOU!! You can also add to the list if you feel the need.

Infant car seat
Convertible car seat
Basic stroller
"Snap-on" stroller frame
Jogging stroller
Play yard
Baby backpack
Front carrier
Sling or wrap carrier
Diaper bag
Activity Equipment
Swing
Bouncer/bouncy seat
Activity center
Play mat/gym
Doorway jumper
Crib
Changing table
Glider or rocker
Bassinet
Co-sleeper
Hamper
Coordinated crib bedding set
Mobile
Baby Dresser
Decorations
Baby monitor
Bottles and nipples
Highchair
Utensils
Plates and bowls
Cups and sippy cups
Burp cloths
Bottle brush
Bibs
Electric breast pump
Manual breast pump
Nursing bras
Nursing pillow
Baby towel with hood
Infant bathtub
Tub for older baby
Baby washcloths
Brush and comb
Baby nail clippers
Safety gates
Diaper pail
Diaper pail refills
Pacifiers
Humidifier
Birth announcements
Baby book or scrapbook



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I don't know if I'm an attachment parent or not, but from the very little I know about AP I can safely say that I at least share similar views on most things.

These are things we use regularly, if not daily:
Infant car seat
Play yard (although not so much now that my son has outgrown the bassinet part and isn't quite mobile enough to need it again yet)
Sling or wrap carrier (this has been absolutely invaluable to us, we wouldn't want to live without at least one)
Diaper bag; admittedly a small one, and mostly just for daycare and day long trips
Crib, Bassinet; we used the bassinet for the first four months, after that he moved into the crib
Swing, Bouncer/bouncy seat; we only have a travel swing at home, but he does seem to enjoy the bouncy seat at daycare
Bottles and nipples, Bottle brush; I really wanted to breastfeed but was unable to, plus he needs to take a bottle at daycare while I'm at work
Hamper
Baby towel with hood, Baby washcloths, Infant bathtub; admittedly a regular towel would work just as well, but we got a bunch of hooded towels as gifts
Diaper pail; we use a reusable liner (cloth diapers)
Humidifier; this is really more for us than the baby, we've always had to use one during winter
Safety gates; currently being used mostly for the dogs, but I would consider these essential for any house once the baby is mobile
Pacifiers; we use these on and off, he goes through stages where he really likes them and stages where he won't take them
Baby nail clippers; probably not essential, but I do find them easier to control than regular clippers
Changing table; a lot of people say it's a waste of money, but I use mine every single day and it doubles as storage for diapers, wipes, burp rags, and blankets
Glider or rocker; again, not essential, but I LOVE mine and found it very worth the money (we bought it used for about $40)
Bibs; we didn't use them much until we started solids, but now we go through several a day.

Birth announcements, Baby book or scrapbook, Coordinated crib bedding set, Mobile; these are all just fluff, but they are things I wanted and enjoy anyway. And my son really enjoys "talking" to his mobile. We also have a soft-bristled baby brush that we do use occasionally, but if we suddenly lost it I don't think I'd worry about replacing it.

We don't have a dresser because our nursery is just too small. Instead we either hang his clothes or put them in canvas baskets on shelves in the closet.

We do have a stroller that works with the car seat. But since we have the slings we generally find it easier to use that than fight with the stroller. The sling is more maneuverable (I can go anywhere with it) and takes up no space in the car. I do anticipate using it more when our son is older and when I have more than one child. But for now it's just sitting in his closet.

what is considered shaking a baby that causes harm?




bubu


I just found out about the Shaking a baby syndrome and how dangerous it is. My question is what is shaking a baby exactly. Sometimes when we try to put my nephew to sleep we hold her walk around and do sort of light shaking movement (like move my arms up and down) to help her sleep. Also, when her dad plays with him, he lays the baby on the bed and grabs his little fit and shakes him from side to side lightly!!! Are these considered shaking...this is really scaring me now,,,b/c we do this quite often and didn't know it causes harm!!!! If it's then Ishould have a talk with my family.


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While to actually cause harm it doesn't have to be violent shaking that is mostly what causes it. Shaking makes the fragile brain bounce back and forth inside the skull and causes bruising, swelling, and bleeding, which can lead to permanent, severe brain damage or death.

What is it?
This is a severe form of head injury caused by violently shaking an infant or child. It usually occurs in children younger than 2 years old, but may be seen in children up to the age of 5. The violent shaking may result in severe injuries to the infant including permanent brain damage or death.

A baby's head is large and heavy in proportion to their body. For this reason, when a baby is dropped or thrown, he will tend to land on his head. There is space between the brain and skull to allow for growth and development. The baby's neck muscles and ligaments are weak and underdeveloped. All of these factors make infants highly vulnerable to whiplash forces.

When an infant or young toddler is shaken, the soft, pliable skull is not yet strong enough to absorb much of the force. The forces are thus transmitted to the brain, which then rebounds against the skull causing bruising of the brain (cerebral contusion), swelling, pressure, and bleeding (intracerebral hemorrhage).

The large veins along the outside of the brain are also vulnerable to tear with these injuries which can lead to further bleeding, swelling, and increased pressure (subdural hematoma). This can easily cause permanent, severe brain damage or death.

Shaking an infant or small child may also cause injuries to the neck and spine. Eye damage is very common and may result in loss of vision (retinal hemorrhage).

What causes it?
Shaken Baby Syndrome is almost always caused by non-accidental trauma (child abuse). It is caused by an angry or frustrated parent or caregiver who shakes a baby in response to persistent crying. Many times they do not intend to harm the baby.

In rare instances this injury may be caused accidentally by actions such as tossing the baby in the air or jogging with a baby in a backpack. It does not result from gentle bouncing or play.




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Monday, March 17, 2014

Tips on flying long haul with 14mth baby. Any advice?




Happy Fami


I will be flying from Melbourne, Australia to London UK with my baby daughter who will be 14 months. I have flown between the two cities before but never with baby. Will be flying Singapore Airlines (love them and apparently they are good for babies) and plan on going for three weeks (that's all the time off we can afford).


Things to consider:

1) Dont really want to give her sedatives
2) She is usually breastfed to sleep (which can be handy but also...tricky!)
3) I will be bringing portable DVD player, lots of nappies, plastic bags, small toys and get them out one at a time, will be using a baby carrier, books, wipes - that's all the advice I have so far...
Please share your experience and offer some helpful tips.



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I'm a former Flight Attendant and I fly a lot of long-haul flights with my three children.

I have never used sedatives. I'm allergic to a lot of them myself so I can't risk it with my kids, especially at 30,000ft. without an emergency room nearby. These are not harmless drugs and while I don't diss parents who use them on long journeys, it's not something that systematically should be done. There can be side effects. I've survived without. You can too.

Besides, on such a long flight, she'll sleep at some points anyway (10 minutes before landing lol!)

Sounds like you have had some good advice. All three of mine were breastfed and this actually will make your trip easier (the oldest did have some bottles but they're harder to travel with). It's a great way to calm them down when they get overtired, which often happens in airports.

Remember that you do NOT have to breastfeed her or make her drink on take-off and landing. This is an common myth. If you are using a car seat, be sure she's strapped in during those times. Mine flew in car seats and didn't take pacifiers and they never had any problems with their ears. Please don't wake your child unnecessarily and/or force her to drink when she doesn't want to.

The best way to avoid ear problems is to schedule a "well baby" visit right before leaving. Her ears will be checked to be sure that she doesn't have an ear infection or other blockage. Flying with something like that is painful. No amount of sucking will help and it can actually be damaging to the ears. These are problems that are easy to avoid and fix.

Speaking of car seats, I really recommend using one at this age. It really wasn't a big deal to bring it on board on a wire foldable luggage cart. I saw both my passengers and my own children were calmer and more settled in their familiar seat. If she doesn't have a seat, ask nicely at check-in if it's possible to get an extra place. Take it to the gate regardless and if you are not success, have your seat "gate-checked" with the strollers and wheelchairs. This is no guarantee but better than checking it at the desk. NEVER check a car seat as luggage. Airlines lose and break checked car seats all the time.

Here's the children's page from Singapore Airlines;
http://www.singaporeair.com/saa/en_UK/content/before/plan/specialneeds.jsp

If you don't need a car seat in London, you might want to look into the CARES harness, which is easy to bring and accepted on Singapore.
http://www.kidsflysafe.com/

Practice changing her standing up before leaving. You'll love this tip in London too where baby changers aren't that common. The changing tables on airplanes are really small and if you can change her in this position, you can use the roomier handicapped lav instead.

Don't forget to pack a couple of changes of clothes and be sure you have enough diapers. She'll go through more on this trip than she would in the same time frame at home. Often, you'll find yourself changing her when you can, rather than when it's necessary, such as right before boarding and landing. Wrap all this stuff in plastic and bind with rubber bands to make more room in your bag.

This is the bib I liked when travelling. It rinses out easily and dries quickly. I found taking this beat a bunch of disposable bibs, especially because it really kept mine clean. It really covers them up because kids get messy on planes. This company makes really bad baby carriers but this bib is great!
http://www.babycity.co.uk/baby-gifts/mealtimes-cutlery-highchairs-baby-bibs/baby-bjorn/baby-bjorn-eat-play-smock-pd-1155.html

Skip a purse and diaper bag and use a big backpack and a small purse around your neck with the essentials. Keep your hands free. I get a bigger backpack that goes up to my knee when placed on the floor. Both of you carry one, one with the extra supplies, and one with what you need. I also take a small cloth bag so that when I took them to change them, I didn't have to drag the whole bag along.

Are you sure she'll watch DVD's? Mine were way too active at that age to watch a screen and no way would they have worn the headsets. She absolutely has to wear them. Playing it over the speakers would be annoying to other passengers. Be really sure that she'll wear them before leaving. Otherwise, the new toys are a good idea. One right before the plane pushes back because that's a really bad time for toddlers to stay seated. Hopefully, it'll distract her and you can't use any electrical items during that time.

For more information, ten years ago I wrote an article on this subject. It's based on both my personal and professional experience of flying with children. It's totally non-commercial and other parents from around the world have contributed;
http://flyingwithchildren1.blogspot.com

It's a tricky age and a long flight but if you're organized, it'll be much easier.

Have a good visit to London!

Advice for taking our 19 month old son on a long-haul flight (30+ hours)?




Steven Jen


Hi, later this year my partner and I are taking our son who will be 19 months old on his first ever flight but I for one am dreading it as it is a long-haul flight going from New Zealand to the UK (via Australia/Singapore and possibly Dubai - depending on which airline we finally decide to book with) for a 3 week stay.

As most boys probably are, our son is very energetic, won't stay still very long at all and gets very bored easily so needs lots of entertaining.

The trip will be well worth it when we do get to the UK as our son has never met any of my side of the family who are all over there. So knowing that alone will help us cope somewhat with any stresses of flying with a young child.

Any advice/tip's/experiences shared etc to help ease the journey will be very much appreciated.

Thanks



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I'm a former Flight Attendant and I fly transatlantics alone a lot with my three children.

This is a long flight and you're going to need to be organized. I wont lie to you and I have to admit that this was probably the worst age for air travel. They love to move but don't have the reasoning to talk about the fact that sometimes they have to be seated, etc.

I recommend that instead of a diaper bag, purse, etc. you opt for a large backpack. Mine goes up to my knee when placed on the ground. Bring at least two changes of clothes and way more diapers than he usually goes through in the same time frame. He will need more than usual. Take out packs of 10, straight from the pack so that they're really flat and put in a plastic bag, Bind with rubber bands and this will make space. Clothes are rolled, placed in plastic and also bound with rubber bands. Split the supplies between both of you in case you're separated or just so that one can take him somewhere without having to fuss with the gear.

My kids at that age were too active for portable DVD players, although they were useful later. You actually have a number of options as far as gadgets that play movies so find out what works for you and if you think it'll keep him occupied. One tip I got was to burn the movies on to your hard drive if you're bringing a computer to save battery time while watching. Make sure he wears the headphones. Practice at home if necessary.

I found simple toys worked best; toy trucks, toy cars, plastic animals, coloring things (magadoodles as well as old fashioned pens and paper), chunky books with openable flaps, pinwheels, plastic rings that click together, pipe cleaners, play dough, etc. Nothing that makes noise. Even a quiet noise played 10,000 will drive your fellow passengers batty. Make sure some of the toys are new (or at least never seen before) so you can "present" them at critical times, like to offset a tantrum and after the plane pulls away from the gate and everyone is supposed to be seated.

Try to get him off of bottles and on to a sippy cup if possible. But if he's like my son, good luck! Chances are he wont so opt for the bottles with disposable plastic liners. Get the flat liners (not "pop-ins"), premeasure the powder in each, roll it up and put in a ziplock.

I really recommend that he have his own seat. This is a LONG time to be on your laps and he's going to be big and heavy. If you opt to save money, try to get an empty seat on the plane beside you. They often do this for families. Be really nice at check-in.

I always fly with a car seat. This is a whole, big subject. Babies are quieter and more comfortable in their own familiar car seat, as well as much, much safer. It's not that big a deal to take it along. I simply strapped mine to a metal luggage cart and pulled it behind me with the carry-on bags. You do want to check your car seat's compatibility, before you book. Make sure you can use it on board. Different airlines have different rules.

Be sure not to check it as luggage. They often get lost and/or broken en route so either use it on board or gate-check it. You may want to arrange a car seat at your destination but please never use one from a rental car company. Have relatives ask around and make sure it's not too old.

I really recommend a good baby carrier. It is the secret to successfully flying with children. He's far too big for one of those dire "front packs" (like the Bjorn) but something comfortable and perhaps with a back carry is good. If you don't already use a sling or wrap, you may want to get a Mei Tai, Ergo, Beco or similar carrier. They're soft, easy to take along and are magic for calming overtired babies on flights (experience speaking!) Also, in big scary airports, toddlers don't always sit nicely in their strollers and want to be held. As a Flight Attendant, I saw far too many parents trying to get through airports with clingy and sleeping babies over their shoulders. Don't be one of them!

Please don't fret over ears. It's actually a myth that babies have to suck on something for take-off and landing. Sure, if you want to offer a cup to drink, not on landing but at the top of descent (landing is too late) when everyone's ears have to reverse pressure, do so. This is about an hour before. What I do recommend is that you schedule a doctor's visit and make sure he doesn't have any ear blockages or infections. These are dangerous and painful to fly with so just have someone look in his ears. We "caught" one in my toddler son once. But on the flight itself, there is no reason to unnecessarily wake up your child or force him to drink if he doesn't want to.

For more information, nine years ago I wrote an article on this subject. It's based on both my personal and professional experience of flying with children. It's totally non-commercial and other parents from around the world have contributed;
http://flyingwithchildren1.blogspot.com

Have a great tr




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Does anyone know what the most comfortable BABY backpack carrier is?




Lisa Lee





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Mobywraps are great. They hold the baby in the correct position and helps protect their spine. It's really comfortable to wear as well as it goes over both shoulders.
http://www.mobywrap.com/

The Ergo is really great as well it holds baby in the same position as the Mobywrap but is a lot easier to get on without all the wrapping. It holds a baby up to 18kg (approx 40lbs). It's also really comfortable as it spreads the baby's weight over your hips and shoulders so your back doesn't feel the weight.
http://www.ergobabycarrier.com/

What are the main things to buy when you have your first baby?




sweetginge





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A List of Things to Buy before Baby comes home

Baby Carrier or Sling:
There are several different products out there that allow you to carry your baby close to you, and keep your hands free for working around the house, shopping, or just going out and about. The carriers fit similar to a non-frame backpack, with straps going over both shoulders, while the slings usually fit over one shoulder. Baby Bjorn, which first launched in 1973, is probably the best known baby carrier name brands, but there are several different manufacturers out there, and prices range from $25 - $150.

Bassinet:
This is an optional baby item that I would recommend thinking about. While some moms believe they are unnecessary, ours was wonderful to have the first six weeks. Bassinets are small and easily moved, so baby (or, in our case, babies) can sleep peacefully wherever you are. Invest in one with wheels so that baby can âfollowâ you from room to room during your day.

Bath Soap, Shampoo, Lotion and Powder:
There are infant washes, shampoos and lotions that are gentler for baby than other types of body washes and shampoos. If you're looking for shampoo, soap and lotions from the store, we highly recommend either the Johnson or Baby Magic brands â calming lavender scent! If you prefer organic and 100% natural ingrediants, Grandma El's shampoo and baby wash is an excellent choice. Check with your pediatrician as to how often you should bathe baby during the first few weeks.

Bathtub:
While you may be able to begin bathing baby in the kitchen sink, thereâs going to be a period after they outgrow the sink and before they can sit in the bathtub on their own. There are several types of bathtubs and bath mats available. You can buy a basic bathtub, or purchase a more complex set up. For instance, Safety 1st has a 4-in-1 bathtub that begins as a mesh bath sling, then converts into an infant bath with sling, then a bath ring seat and finally to a 2-year toddler tub. Thereâs also a Baby Bath Center that has a battery-operated spa and shower that gives your baby a soothing whirlpool bath and a gentle shower spray for rinsing hair

Books:
Reading to baby, even when baby is only hours old, is a great bonding experience. Book reading provides security, comfort, one-on-one time, a great chance to communicate, a good base for vocabulary, and visual and mental stimulation. Studies show a direct correlation between language skills â and some studies suggest intelligence â and how many words a baby hears each day. There are many ways to talk to your baby, and reading is one of them, especially if you really like to narrate the books you read. If youâd rather not spend your downtime reading Three Little Pigs to your newborn, read the paper, magazine, or your current book. The important thing is baby hearing your voice, and not necessarily the words you are saying. You can probably get away with this until baby is about four months old, when they start getting interested in whatâs actually one the pages youâre reading.

Bottles:
Donât go overboard here. Different brands of bottles have different nipples, and some babies just arenât able to latch on to certain brands. Our boys could not latch on to one of the most popular (and most expensive) brands of nipples and bottles out there, which were billed as â Iâd recommend buying two or three of one or two different types, see what works (and whatâs preferred) and go from there.

Bouncy Chair:
There is another wide variety of options for you to choose from here. The range includes âbouncerâ chairs designed especially for infants to chairs where the seat can be laid back for infants, and then raised into sitting positions as baby gets older. We opted for the 3-in-1 Fisher Price chair. It was a stationary vibrating chair with a toy bar when the guys were infants and then converted into a rocker with a toy bar and âbeltâ when they could sit up, and a freestanding chair that they used until they were two. For the same price of a bouncer, we thought this was a better investment. Whichever chair or bouncer you choose will be a life saver for things like taking a shower, folding laundry, cooking dinner â and other times that you arenât able to hold baby, but want him to be nearby. Bouncers have a short (but very useful) life, and baby will outgrow his or her single-use bouncer at about three months â at about the time their necks will be strong enough for stationary exercisers, jumperoos, and swings.


Changing Table:
My sister-in-law told me that a changing table was the most important thing I could buy for the guysâ room, and I am so glad I listened to her! Like any other baby item, there is a huge variety to choose from. You can purchase 'just' a changing tables or purcase a changing table that also serve as a dresser, bookshelf, and closet. There are some âall-in-oneâ that incorporates the changing table into the framework of a crib or bookshelf. Whichever you decide to get, I recommend buying a âsturdyâ changing table, as it will save your back (and all the backs that change babyâs diapers) not only in the infant stage, but through toddlerhood, too (anywhere from 18 months to 3 years, depending on how potty training and pull-ups go). Some of the spindle-legs and wicker changing tables (to name two) have a maximum weight of 20 lbs or so â which baby will quickly outgrow. Itâs amazing how much easier life becomes when you have a changing table to rely on, instead of tables, beds, and the floor.

Cloth Diapers â for you not for baby:
YOU NEED THESE even if you use disposable diapers. These arenât for baby to wear, but for you to use for just about anything â burping, spills, cleaning up spit up, roll up to use as head and neck supports â you name it. Once you get past the infant stage, they still come in handy. The soft feel l makes it nice to use against babyâs skin, and their larger size is much better than depending on washcloths and dishtowels.

Clothes:
Baby needs to wear something! Iâll say it here, but youâll do it anyway â be wary of overbuying for sizes 0-3 months. This size usually is up to 12 lbs, which happens fairly quickly. Stock up on onesies and sleepers (which they will spend most of their time in, anyway), and leave the buttons, shoes, and hard to get into clothes for when baby is 3 months old and older. You donât want to spend your baby money on clothes theyâll outgrow in about two months.
Co-Sleeper or Pak ân Play:

Co-sleeper or Pak 'n Play
There are two great options to cosleep with baby.

Products like the Family Bed Co-Sleeper safely turn a regular bed into a family bed. The Family Bed Co-sleeper offers a comfortable (and washable) pad for dad, mom, and baby to sleep on, while the bolster keeps baby from rolling off. When looking for a family bed co-sleeper, make sure that the bolster is used without straps, buckles, without cumbersome pillows.

A bedside cosleeper is a great way to keep your baby at armâs reach, but out of your bed. You can also remove the sleeping area and use the base as a play pen, if youâd like. I would definitely go for the co-sleeper if you have twins (it has a sturdier bed where the babies sleep, and you don't have to 'reinforce' the bed with cardboard).

Pak ân Plays come with a variety of options as well. Ours had a bassinet and a changing table included. Once the guys outgrew their bassinet, we had them sleep in the pak ân play in the living room, and the co-sleeper in our bedroom. We never did use the play pen features.

Both fold up fairly easily so that you can take them with you when you travel. The big difference between the two is that a co-sleeper has one side that drops down, allowing baby to be at the same heighth as your bed, without having a significant barrier between the two of you that you have to navigate to put baby in, or take baby out, while lying in bed. Also, we found that the co-sleeper was significantly sturdier than the pak 'n play.

Crib:
This one is iffy to have before baby comes home if you plan to cosleep or use a bassinet for the first few weeks, and a must if you intend on putting baby to sleep in the crib as soon as he or she comes home. While itâs great to have âcribâ crossed off your list before baby comes home, if youâre going to be co-sleeping or using a cradle or bassinet, you might want to wait until baby is home. There are more than a few parents that decorated their babyâs nursery before baby came home, only to discover it didnât âmatchâ their babyâs personality. Many families co-sleep with baby during the first year, and skip the crib all together, moving right into a toddler bed.

There are almost as many options for cribs as there are for car seats. You can buy one that serves only as a crib, or one that converts into a toddler bed and then into a twin bed. Hand-me-down cribs are great family heirlooms, but be safety conscious. Are the slates to far apart? Are there any broken or damaged pieces? Is anything painted with lead paint?




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Do you have any tips for hiking or trail walking bringing a young baby?




Mama <3


We have a baby bjorn carrier that we will be carrying her in. Is this good enough or do we need something better? I walk our neighborhood carrying my daughter all time. She is 4.5 months old. We live on a mountain so I am walking up and down hills everytime we go and I usually walk almost a mile.

We want to do some walking/ small hiking in smokey mountain ntl forest. We are probably just going to do an EASY trail during the month of March and that's if we get a warm, nice day.
Is this ok to do? Seriously or should we stick to just shopping and enjoying Gatlinburg? I worry a little about bears. My husband is an "outdoorsman" and he hikes as a hobby and he carrys a gun almost always. He will have a powerful one Im sure. ;)



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Your plans are good, just be sure to bring the ten essentials for you and baby. I started all my kids out on my back in a baby backpack and they always enjoyed the trips. My ears became leashes as Jr would grab them and try to steer me around. Bring sun block. here is a link with more info,
http://www.rei.com/expertadvice/camping#tab_4

what store can I by a backpack to hold a toddler in for hiking trips? I have a pic for visual referance?




:)


http://www.childcarriers.com/Chicco-Smart-Support-baby-backpack.pro#pp-tabs

you might have to click on the individual pics. Thank you:)



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REI

http://www.rei.com/search?query=baby+backpacks




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What are your thoughts on the backpack leashes for kids?

Q. You know the ones that sometimes have animals on them & the kids wear them like backpacks but it has a "leash" attached to it that you hold so your child doesn't run off. What are your thoughts on them & have you ever used them on your kid & was one ever used on you?

One was used on me a few times as a kid but I never wanted one used for my son. I would like to know that I can control my 2 year old without one. But my mom took him today & she decided to stop by a Walmart & buy one so now my son is walking around on a leash. When I told my Dad what my mom had done he was not happy & said "he is not a animal" & I agree.
@ K- my mom is 43 years old.


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before having a hyperactive son, i was against them, however, i have used one on zachary when it was me, him, and the new baby and we were out and about together, simply because he would like to take off and it is difficult to chase him adequately and carry a baby carrier. This was only necessary once and he hated it, so the next time we went out, i told him if he was good we wouldnt use it, he was on his best behavior lol

where do i buy the leash that parents use on a toddler like i see in the mall?




Danielle





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At walmart for about $10... You can get the cute kind with the stuffed animal backpack in the baby section... Back by toddler tubs & stuff...




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Do baby backpack carriers hurt your back?




Salishan B


Theres alot of trails around my new house and I want to do lots of walking/hiking with my 9 month old baby. I've been thinking a backpack carrier would be nice, but do they hurt your back?

would it be worth getting one?



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Baby backpack carriers can hurt your back especially if your baby is very heavy. I think at 9 months your baby may be too big to carry on your back and may not fit into most back carriers. However, if you have a small baby, you may be able to do this. Your baby will be walking soon and not want to be carried on your back so you may only use the back pack carrier for a couple of months. In my opinion, I don't think it would be worth getting one at this point.

Any opinions about baby backpacks and stroller systems?




army_siste


I don't have a baby yet but I might in the future. My question is about baby backpacks and strollers. Snuggli is one backpack I have seen. How useful are they? I saw one that said it could be used in the front for a small baby and on the back for a larger one up to 27 pounds. Are they comfortable and easy to get on and off? My concern was would my back start hurting after awhile? I have also seen some that have a metal frame that goes on the back? It looks kind of like the old hiking backpacks. Has anyone used that type? Is the soft Snuggli type better than the metal frame type?
On to strollers. I see alot of the stroller systems that come with the carseat carriers. Does anyone have an opinion whether they think the type that holds a carseat is better than just a regular stroller? I can see the benefits of both types. I would be a busy mom who be going on lots of walks and would also need to have one that would fold up nicely for the trunk of the car.Any other must haves for a baby?



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Baby backpacks: I liked them okay. My husband loved ours. He would carry our daughter around all the time. They get in the way if you're trying to do something (and you really can't bend over) but they're nice for walking around and shopping if you don't want a stroller.
Stroller: Get one with a car seat carrier. They are so nice. You have to have a car seat anyway so why not get one that can snap onto your stroller. Its good for an infant because you know their head is protected in the carseat and you can see them at all times because you put the carseat on facing you in the stroller. Also, when your child is too big for the car seat, you can just use the stroller as a regular stroller. We have a 17 month old and have both kinds. Both fit into our trunk nicely. Our Jeep stroller (which is for older kids kind of a more expensive umbrella stroller) is great for going to the store. Her other stroller is nice if he needs a nap because she can lay down in it. Other things to have are a bouncy seat, a swing (our daughter absolutely loved hers), and for hen s/he can walk a stationary set so s/he can stand and play at the same time. We also liked our jumparoo but some people say they're bad for kids' legs. There are many good things for a baby, but it's all about what's good for you and your baby.




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Are my things ok for carrying on a plane?




Matt


I plan on carrying a backpack with my clothes, tennis shoes, my clear ziplock bag with 3 oz toothpaste, tooth brush, and deodorant. Should I have a problem with carrying those thing on the plane?


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No as long as the ziplock is a 1 quart bag. I am flying in a few months and I just looked it up. You will be fine. I cut and pasted the information below for UNITED AIRLINES.

Carry-on baggage restrictions for flights from/within the U.S., the European Union and Japan

Liquids, gels and/or aerosols are permitted through security checkpoints. Items must fit in one clear, re-sealable quart or liter-sized plastic bag, in containers of 3.4oz/100ml or less. In the European Union, items must fit in one clear, re-sealable liter-sized plastic bag, in containers of 100ml/3.3oz or less. (Please note: The TSA's exact measurements are stated above. But for ease of memory please follow the 3-1-1 rule.)

Plastic bags must be completely sealed and will be x-rayed at the security checkpoint separately.

The following items are allowed, but must be presented to officials at security checkpoints if they are not contained in clear plastic bags or are of greater volume than 3.4oz/100ml in the U.S. and Japan or 100ml/3.3oz in the EU:

Baby formula/milk, including breast milk, and baby food in containers if a baby or small child is traveling.
Medications (liquid, gel or aerosol)
Liquids, juices or gels for diabetic passengers who indicate a need for such items to address their medical condition. (A letter from your physician is not necessary).
Passengers are permitted to take liquids, gels, and/or aerosols purchased in the boarding area onboard the aircraft. This includes all duty free items.

Though there is some flexibility regarding duty free items within the EU, restrictions still apply elsewhere. Duty free liquids, gels, and/or aerosols that exceed the TSA limit will not be permitted on most connection flights worldwide.

On flights from the U.K. or Belgium, the limitation of one carry-on item per person is strictly enforced.

On flights to/from Japan, view the carry-on baggage policy. Plus, view the PDF (official document) Download from Japan Civil Aviation Bureau, Ministry of Land, Infrastructure and Transportation (JCAB, MLIT).
You will need the FREE Adobe Acrobat Reader to view and print your guide. While viewing the Quick Reference Guide in Acrobat Reader, please be sure to choose Save from the File menu.

new york city vacation with a toddler/baby?




Veronica (


my son turns 1 on sept 14th 09. my family (as in me, my fiance/babys father, my brother, SIL, and there three kids) are thinking of vacationing to new york city about that time of the year. of course, i will need to take my son. we are thinking of staying about 10-14 days, cost/time/work permitting of course. we may rent a plus size van and take turns driving up. or we may fly.

my ?s are:
if we fly, does my son need to use his car seat on the airplane?
after we get to nyc, what are the child restraint rules for public transportation in city buses and/or subways?
can he just sit in a stroller in the buses?
do taxis have car seats if you call the cab telephone number instead of hailing 1 off the street?

we plan to be all over ny and cannot obviously cart around a front face car seat (if you live there or have been there, you kno what i mean lol)
what is the best way to transport my son safely?



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Okay, I have two kids and live in NYC. I also have taken them on many airplane rides.

First, the plane:

No, under 2 they do not need a separate seat. HOWEVER---- I have a friend who is an air traffic controller who says it is very dangerous for a child under 2 not to be in a child safety seat on the plane. Her reason? Ordinary turbulance that might cause a few bumps to an adult can be life threatening to an infant. While you could just bring your child as a lap baby and bring along her car seat, and hope for an extra seat you could put her in without paying (stewardesses will usually allow this), it is safer to actually pay for a seat, since you'll know you will have it! And some airlines will give you a discount for an infant. Ask. Remember, the child safety seat must be FAA approved (most infant ones are, not all toddler ones are, though.)

Now to the NYC questions: No, you don't need an extra restraint on buses or subways. You can leave your child in the stroller on the subway (though you will have to deal with stairs in many cases - there are elevators, but not in every station, and even then, they can be a pain!) But on the buses, you must fold your stroller and hold the baby. Yes, I've have fights with bus drivers (I'm not proud to say it, but there it is) when my baby was asleep and I didn't want to wake her. But they will not allow you to take your child on the bus in a stroller. Sorry about that!

If you take a cab, well....that's a dilema NYC parents talk about all the time. Taxis are exempt from the child restraint laws that apply to private cars. You are legally allowed to just hold your child in your lap. I have never felt good about doing this. But I have done it occasionally. I would advise against it, however.

As for a cab you call yourself, that's not called a cab here, but a car service. Some of them have child seats in the trunk, if you ask for it ahead of time. But many are old, and not in good shape, and frequently installed incorrectly. I think your child would be far safer on a bus or subway!

Yes, the subway is a pain, but in my opinion, it's the best, safest way to travel with an infant. It's noisy, that's the worst part. If you could get a stroller than converts into a backpack, that might make the subway rides easier, but they are HEAVY to carry on your back! Plus, your child must be certain size or they are not safe. So that could be an option.

But most New Yorkers will gladly help you up and down stairs in the subway stations. The worst part, these days, is getting the station managers to open the slam gates to let the stroller through. used to have a stroller that went through the turnstiles (it was very narrow) but they've changed the turnstiles since then. I doubt you'd find anything that will go through today, unless you take your child in a backpack stroller.

But the subways ARE doable. When you get here, you'll see so many other parents and babies on the trains. Just don't take them at rush hour with a small child!




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