Gifts for my family.....HELP!!!?

Wishes

my mom likes pretty things,and i need something to lighten her mood because her and my dad are having trouble. my dad is gone with monster trucks all the time. so i need something he can remember me with and is about vehicles (no toolboxes.i get him one every year). my brother i have no clue besides he is annoying...any ideas?

Answer
Christmas gift Ideas for Mom :
DVD Players
Handheld Computers & PDAs
Women's Fragrances
Desktop Computers
Blankets & Throws
Cook's Tools & Gadgets
Toasters
Tableware
Kitchen Storage & Organization
Photo Frames
Home & Landscape Design Software
Gardening Tools
Gold Jewelry
Gemstone Jewelry
Journey Jewelry
Photo Printers
Women's Interest Magazines
http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2Fgp%2Fgift-central%2Fevent%2Fmom-guides%3Fie%3DUTF8%26ref_%3Dcm%255Fgift%255Fgg%255Fleft%255Fmom&tag=gifts.cheap-20&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=390957

Christmas gift Ideas for Dad :
Flashlights
Magazines on News & Politics
Snowblowers
Digital Cameras
Sports Magazines
Hand Exercisers
Books on Hunting & Fishing
Lights & Lanterns for Camping
Audio Books on Sports & Outdoors
Documentaries
Baby Backpacks & Carriers
Power Tool Combo Packs
Outerwear
Gardening Tools
http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2Fgp%2Fgift-central%2Fevent%2Fdad-guides%3Fie%3DUTF8%26ref_%3Dcm%255Fgift%255Fgg%255Fleftp%255Fcm%255Fgift%255Fgg%255Frel%255Flp%255Fdad&tag=gifts.cheap-20&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=390957

What should I buy my grandpas and my dad and my uncle?

Lily L

Actually, I need gift for both of them. I feel with women I can always get them pretty scarves or jewelry (you can't have too much!) but it's impossible to find gift for the male members of my family.
Why would my grandpas want ties? They are retired. And my neither my uncle or my dad wear them to work either.

Answer
Christmas gift Ideas for Grandpa :
Men's Robes
GPS
News & Politics Magazines
Gourmet Cheese Assortments
Home Improvement Books
Retirement Planning Books
Indoor Games
Sports Fan Gear
Golfing Supplies
Geneaology Software
Cookbooks
Electric Shavers
Classical Music
Documentaries
Outdoor Cooking
Car Cleaning Kits
PC Video Cameras
Bonsai
http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2Fgp%2Fgift-central%2Fevent%2Fgrandpa%3Fie%3DUTF8%26ref_%3Dcm%255Fgift%255Fgg%255Fleftp%255Fcm%255Fgift%255Fgg%255Frel%255Flp%255Fgpa&tag=gobsweb-20&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=390957

Christmas gift Ideas for Dad :
Classic Vocalists CD Box Sets
Universal Remote Controllers
Action & Adventure Box Sets
Jump Starters, Battery Chargers & Portable Power
Magazines on Golf
Biographies
High-Def TVs
Books on History
Golf Accessories
Speaker Systems
Magazines on How-to & Home Improvement
Handheld Organizers & PDAs
Multi-tools
Magazines on Business & Investment
Flashlights
Magazines on News & Politics
Snowblowers
Digital Cameras
Sports Magazines
Hand Exercisers
Power Inverters
Baby Backpacks & Carriers
Box Set DVDs on Military & War
Power Tool Combo Packs
Outerwear
Gardening Tools
GPS
Portable DVD Players
Electric Shavers
Golf DVDs
http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2Fgp%2Fgift-central%2Fevent%2Fdad-guides%3Fie%3DUTF8%26ref_%3Dcm%255Fgift%255Fgg%255Fleftp%255Fcm%255Fgift%255Fgg%255Frel%255Flp%255Fdad&tag=gobsweb-20&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=390957

Hope this help.

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12 hour car ride, what to bring to entertain myself?

bgirlschta

So far, I have ipod, cell, and books. Anything else?

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You're off to the Grand Canyon. Or to Grandma's. Or to see the sights. No matter where you travel to in your car, we recommend bringing the following items for a smooth, enjoyable trip. To include clothes and toiletries for you and the kids, see the list for a weekend getaway.

Here is a customized list that i thought could come in handy. (The items that i put on may not affect you)


MUST HAVE:
Wallet and/or purse and cash (sometimes we forget the most obvious things)
Credit cards and/or traveler's checks (plus list of numbers of both)
ID or driver's license
Car and house keys (plus duplicate sets kept in different bags)
Eye glasses and/or contact lenses (plus lens cleaner)
Sunglasses
Watch
Medical insurance cards
Prescriptions and other medications
Maps, directions and reservation confirmations
Camera and film
Books and magazines for kids and adults
Toys, playing cards, small games
Flashlight and batteries
Umbrella and rain jackets
Plastic bags for wet items
Disposable wipes (or put damp paper towels in zippered plastic bags)
Pocketknife
Travel alarm
Sewing kit
First-aid kit (see separate packing list)
Snacks/gum
Water/juice boxes, no-spill cups
Paper napkins/towels
Cooler with beverages (water is best) and lunch items
Paper, washable markers (crayons may melt on a hot day) and clipboard or lap desk
Snacks (crackers, mini rice cakes, dry cereal, dried fruit or nuts and the like) in small zippered plastic bags
Small backpack for child to carry own toys and art supplies
Pillows
Towels (in case of hot seats or spills)


FOR BABY:
Car seat
Diaper bag
Disposable diapers
Changing pad
Baby powder and lotion
Zippered plastic bags
Wet wipes
Nursing pads and burp pads
Bibs
Bottles, nipples and caps
Formula and/or juice
Pacifiers
Changes of clothing
Jacket or sweater
Collapsible stroller with canopy or umbrella
Front or back child-carrying pack, or sling style
Blankets
Waterproof sheets
Bathing supplies
Large plastic bags for wet clothes (can also be used as a changing pad in a pinch)

NICE TO HAVE:
Individually wrapped small toys (new ones or old favorites) or activity bags to hand out at intervals during the trip
Frisbee or ball for playing in grassy area at rest stop
Music and books on tape (record your child's favorite stories yourself)
Individual tape players and headphones
Window screens
Hand or finger puppets for entertaining at restaurants
Portable playpen or crib
Portable high chair or booster seat
Magnetic travel games
Laminated U.S. maps for kids to mark off license plates

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At what age can a baby use....?

BEC

A bike seat??

I want to start riding my bike with my daughter...she is 9.5 months...is she old enough? Or is should I wait? What age is ok?

Answer
At an absolute bare minimum the child has to be able to wear a bike helmet, which means their neck must be strong enough to support the weight. That happens at about 1 year of age and parents are advised to discuss it with their pediatrician -though I do not actually believe that pediatricians or family doctors have *any* training in this.

In some places (NY for example) it is the law that no child under age 1 be attached to a bike in any way.

http://www.bhsi.org/little1s.htm
Nobody we have met in the injury prevention field recommends taking an infant of less than 12 months in a bicycle child seat, trailer, sidecar or any other carrier. Nobody. And we do not either.
New York state law prohibits it. The US Consumer Product Safety Commission thinks it is dangerous to take a child under one year on a bicycle, and here is their rationale:

Maurice Keenan, MD, from the American Academy of Pediatrics [21], requested that a minimum age of 1 year be reflected on the label for helmets intended for children under age 5. This would better convey the message that infants (children under age 1) should not be passengers on a bicycle under any circumstance.

The Commission agrees with the commenter that children under 1 year of age should not be on bicycles. Children are just learning to sit unsupported at about 9 months of age. Until this age, infants have not developed sufficient bone mass and muscle tone to enable them to sit unsupported with their backs straight. Pediatricians advise against having infants sitting in a slumped or curled position for prolonged periods. This position may even be exacerbated by the added weight of a bicycle helmet on the infantâs head. Because pediatricians recommend against having children under age 1 as passengers on bicycles, the Commission does not want the certification label to imply that children under age 1 can ride safely.

Source: 16 CFR Part 1203 Safety Standard for Bicycle Helmets; Final Rule, page 11726

That explains why you will not find a child helmet on the market sized for a tiny tot. You certainly do not want to ride with a bare-headed child, and in some places it is illegal. In fact, several states have laws against taking children under one year of age on a bicycle, even with a helmet.

Parents love their babies and love their bicycles, so it is natural to want to put the two together. That thought occurs to every bicycling parent, generally before the child is born. We see messages on the Internet indicating that some parents do put their children in baby seats of one design or another and take them along on trailers starting as young as five weeks. Others use a baby backpack. At slightly older ages, people use front or rear-mounted child seats. A few (mostly in the UK) use sidecars. Each has its advantages and disadvantages. A disclaimer: our purpose here is to highlight the risks. We are hearing more now about undiagnosed brain injuries, with symptoms too subtle for doctors to detect in a clinical setting, but very real to families. And that comes to mind whenever someone asks us about babies and biking. We worry about your six-week-old entering the first grade six years from now with a small but detectable mental handicap. That is alarmist; this is an alarmist page!

For an official US Government view, we have excerpts from the Consumer Product Safety Commission's age-related guidelines for ride-on toys.

what should i get for my baby?

Expecting

Or put on the baby registry? I know i need a crib, diapers, stroller, clothes but i cant think of anything else. Any help for a first time mom w| a baby boy?

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I would have you look at my registry but I actually just deleted everything I've gotten off of it the other day. I'm going to try and remember everything for you though....here it goes:

*car seat
*stroller
*carrier (sling or backpack type)
*crib
*mattress
*mattress pads (at least 2)
*crib sheets (at least 2)
*crib bedding set
*diapers (sizes newborn, 1, 2 3, 4, 5)
*wipes (preferably unscented so baby's skin isn't irritated)
*infant tub (there are some great infant to toddler tubs so you don't have to buy two different tubs)
*highchair
*booster seat
*playmat
*bouncer/bouncy seat
*swing
*changing table
*walker
*dresser or other place to store baby's clothes and stuff
*mobile (optional)
*nursing bras, tank tops, lanolin nipple cream, breast pump, breast pads, etc for yourself if you are nursing
*bottles (even if you are nursing it is always good to have a few on hand in case you want to pump at all or in case you become ill and can't breastfeed for a few days)
*pack n play
*sheets or pad for pack n play (at least 2)
*bassinet (optional)
*sheets for bassinet (only if getting a bassinet of course)
*blankets (definitely some receiving blankets, maybe some swaddling blankets, etc)
*clothing, bibs, hats, shoes, snowsuit if needed, etc.
*bottle cleaning brush
*pacifiers (optional)
*thermometer (rectal for sure because most doctors will ask you to take the baby's temperature that way when they are sick, underarm or another thermometer for other times when calling a doctor isn't necessary)
*grooming supplies (nail clippers, aspirator, brush, etc.)
*medication dispenser for infants
*gas relief drops and fever reducer
*diaper stacker and hamper (optional)
*diaper pail and liners (optional)
*bottle drying rack (optional)
*child-proofing supplies and safety gates if needed
*changing pad and changing pad covers (at least 2 covers)
*diaper bag
*diaper rash cream
*baby shampoo, body wash, lotion, baby powder, etc.
*activity gym
*those shade things for car windows
*baby monitors (they have motion sensor ones, just audio, or audio/video)
*first aid kits (preferably one for at least home and the car)
*boppy pillow (they are good for breastfeeding but are also good for propping baby up before he can sit on his own, tummy time, etc)
*baby mittens so he doesn't scratch himself
*cotton balls to clean his eyes, ears, his little fat rolls, and the umbilical stump if needed
*baby robe, washcloths, and hooded towels (optional but very cute!)
*toys and teethers
*laundry detergent

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next-generation baby-proofing?

desmeran

while we're on a roll and a couple people have already submitted their suggestions for over-the-top babyproofing products, what's your invention that is completely ridiculous but will be the must-have safety item for the next generation of kids?

you know those hydration things you can have for bike races with the backpack attached to the tubes that go directly to your mouth? couldn't they have little tubes that go down Junior's sleeves and squirt Purell out onto his hands every 15 minutes?

other suggestions?

Answer
They will invent a diaper changer system, where you place the babies lower half of body into the mini tub where the sprayers and cleaner, and air dryer is. And it even fastens the diaper for you.

The parents will never be able to imagine how a person ever manually changed a single diaper for a baby.

Baby in a bike seat- what's the youngest age?

Mrs. Kelly

I want to get a bike seat for my baby so she can ride with me. What is the minimum age she can be to ride/wear a helmet? Anyone know?

Answer
Obviously a child can't be on a bike until they can safely wear a helmet.

http://www.helmets.org/little1s.htm
Nobody we have met in the injury prevention field recommends taking an infant of less than 12 months in a bicycle child seat, trailer, sidecar or any other carrier. Nobody. And we do not either.
New York state law prohibits it. The US Consumer Product Safety Commission thinks it is dangerous to take a child under one year on a bicycle, and here is their rationale:

Maurice Keenan, MD, from the American Academy of Pediatrics [21], requested that a minimum age of 1 year be reflected on the label for helmets intended for children under age 5. This would better convey the message that infants (children under age 1) should not be passengers on a bicycle under any circumstance.

The Commission agrees with the commenter that children under 1 year of age should not be on bicycles. Children are just learning to sit unsupported at about 9 months of age. Until this age, infants have not developed sufficient bone mass and muscle tone to enable them to sit unsupported with their backs straight. Pediatricians advise against having infants sitting in a slumped or curled position for prolonged periods. This position may even be exacerbated by the added weight of a bicycle helmet on the infantâs head. Because pediatricians recommend against having children under age 1 as passengers on bicycles, the Commission does not want the certification label to imply that children under age 1 can ride safely.

Source: 16 CFR Part 1203 Safety Standard for Bicycle Helmets; Final Rule, page 11726

That explains why you will not find a child helmet on the market sized for a tiny tot. You certainly do not want to ride with a bare-headed child, and in some places it is illegal. In fact, several states have laws against taking children under one year of age on a bicycle, even with a helmet.

Parents love their babies and love their bicycles, so it is natural to want to put the two together. That thought occurs to every bicycling parent, generally before the child is born. We see messages on the Internet indicating that some parents do put their children in baby seats of one design or another and take them along on trailers starting as young as five weeks. Others use a baby backpack. At slightly older ages, people use front or rear-mounted child seats. A few (mostly in the UK) use sidecars. Each has its advantages and disadvantages. A disclaimer: our purpose here is to cover the risks, so you know what you are getting into. We are hearing more these days about undiagnosed brain injuries, with symptoms too subtle for doctors to detect, but very real to families. And that comes to mind whenever someone asks us about babies and biking. We worry about your six-week-old entering the first grade six years from now with a small but detectable mental handicap. That is alarmist; this is an alarmist page.



http://www.ibike.org/education/infant.htm
Infants: Child Seats Vs. Trailers Vs. Backpacks Vs. Third-wheel Cycles

The primary determinant of when an infant can join his or her parents on bike rides is the strength of the the child's neck. Because of the jostling and the additional weight of a helmet (8-10 oz.), this is a few months after a baby can first hold their head up. Note: Some jurisdictions have laws requiring passengers on bicycles to be at least one year old.

Usually by age 12 months parents can start checking with the child's physician to see if they have the neck development to safely go for a bike ride. Most toddlers' neck and shoulder muscles can tolerate the weight of a helmet and absorb shock from bumps in the road at 1 years old.

We know of no comprehensive study on the best method to carry an infant on a bike and there are risks associated with all of them.. Here are some factors to consider:

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4 Month Old Starts Crying When Not Held?

sfhc21

As soon as you pick her up and start walking around, everything is fine. She smiles, laughs. But as soon as you put her down, she starts crying and won't stop till you pick her up. From what I've seen, there are two answers:

1. You can't spoil a child. Keep holding her..
2. You are spoling her too much. Set her down and let her cry.

Both sides are extreme...To me, it seems there needs to be a balance. So what's the solution from some of you in the middle. How did you get through this time?

Answer
Well the middle ground is to a) use a baby carrier so you have your hands free or b) find something to amuse the baby such as a jolly jumper, swing, bouncer, exersaucer, gym, arch, toys, or even yes if it is a choice between this and your sanity TV/videos.

And I know it is cliche but this will pass soon. Soon she will be crawling/scooting/rolling/more easily grab things and able to entertain herself for short periods of time.

If she has good head control which usually happens at 4 months then you can use a backpack carrier and things like the jolly jumper (or whatever it's called in the US jumperoo?)

And it isn't true that if you don't force them to be independent they will be clingy. Lots of studies have proven that attachment parenting where you do carry them around almost all the time, and co sleep until they choose not to causes kids to be more independent. I know I rarely put my son down and now that he can walk and crawl he wants nothing to do with me. *lol* Except when it's time to feed.

Think about it this way:

If you are on a diet and you tell yourself no more chocolate (or whatever your favourite food is). And you don't have it in the house and you go without it for weeks how often do you think about chocolate. How often do you want it. Then one day you have some, how much do you eat?

Then let's say a different time you go to the day after Valentine's Day sale and you buy more chocolate than you could reasonably eat. It's in your closet for gifts, there is an open box or two. Sure at first you may eat a fair bit, but quickly you stop thinking about it all the time, you eat less of it, you may even get sick of it and not want it all together.

If you "fill up" your daughter's need for contact now then she won't need as much later. She won't feel that she has to test all the time to make sure you are there and will hold her. She knows you will. She knows every time she needs you there you are, so why test it? Does this mean you have to make yourself miserable NO. You need to find a balance that works for BOTH of you. Balance YOUR needs vs HER needs. Can I tell you what that balance is? Nope. I'm not you and I have never met your daughter.

Find the balance, find what works and you won't have a clingy child because of it. Can I guarantee at 9 months she'll walk away and rarely look back, no. Because she is her and my son is himself. But I do promise she will learn Independence and self-soothing in her own time, just as she learned to smile, and laugh, blow kisses and clap. Yes you need to provide opportunities to learn. Some AP mommas go too far and will never put their kids down even when their child wants to learn to crawl or play with that neat toy when they are 8, 9, or sometimes a year old. But if you take a balanced approach filling her up without wearing you out that will be the optimal thing for her and you and she will get there at the right time for her, rather than be clingy because of over-indulgence or under-attention.

What would you do differently?

rainbow

I'm going to be a first time mom and I'm doing a search about all the things that are really necessary in my baby's nursery room. If you have to do it again in what you would spend money or not at all? Besides my questions I appreciate other comments/suggestions that you can add. Thank you.
Newborn:
1. travel system stroller vs Snugrider Snap n Go or else?
2. Crib and Nice bed vs Convertible Crib?
3. Bassinet, Infant Rest or Moses Basket. How many of you put the baby to sleep with you?
4. Baby slings, carriers or else
5. Someone mention that they put a small radio, monitor and a tv. Do you think is something necessary?
6. Diaper Genie or similar vs just a regular trash can?

Answer
I would never buy a quilt set for the crib. They just don't use quilts when they're little.

I would get LARGE receiving blankets. They're great for swaddling. If you learn how to swaddle correctly (see the Happiest Baby on the block, or the associated video) you won't need a swaddling gimmick which just costs money. By about 2 months old, we stopped swaddling our little guy's feet and by about 4 months, he was out of the swaddle all together (Over time I weaned him from it).

We got just a regular crib. I figured if we have another baby, that baby will need the crib and we'll get a bed for our first born.

I didn't get a travel system. We bought a good stroller with big inflatable tires because it can go ANYWHERE (It's a BOB Revolution stroller). I was told to NOT keep your baby in the carseat when not in the car because it can affect their spine (which can ultimately affect their digestion and movement) so a travel system is pointless. We got a convertible carseat by Britax. He can stay rear facing in this seat from birth to whatever age. We're keeping him RFing until at least 2 yo.

I got a used bassinet from a garage sale for $10. It had a vibration mode which was great. It was a great purchase since I lived out on the couch for the first 3 months (that way I could watch tv while I breastfed in the middle of the night - each session was about 45 minutes long). I did bring my baby to sleep with me during the days, when my husband was at work but not when he was home since he's a very deep sleeper.

I LOVE my baby slings and wraps and backpack carrier. I made a moby-like wrap, I bought a maya wrap and I bought a Phil and Teds Metro backpack carrier used. The moby was fantastic for very early on. The maya wrap was great to use when going shopping. You can also seat them in it facing forward, which is nice once they get older. I started using the backpack when my son was 3 months and still use it now (15months). We can interact much more than if he were in a forward facing stroller, which makes both of us happier. Also, now that he's walking - he doesn't want to be in the stroller as much but he'll gladly stay in the carrier so I can get more done.

I would have been more paranoid has I had a video monitor. A friend of mine lost her son (same age as my son) from SIDS at 4.5 months. I got really crazy with checking on my son after that - it would have been way worse if I had a monitor where I could have watched him ALL the time. I do have a cd player in his room and I ALWAYS play music for him before he goes to sleep. He asks for the music now and has just started picking what cd he wants to listen to before bed. Music + crib + sleep sack = sleep time... which brings me to:

Sleep sacks. I have been putting him in them since I stopped swaddling him and so once he sees the sleep sack, he knows he gets story time, milk time and then it's down for bed. I love the sacks because then you don't have to have a blanket in the crib at all, which for us is great because my son throws it of himself right away but then would get cold (especially in the winter).

I don't have a diaper genie - just a garbage with a lid. I also mostly cloth diaper although we use disposables at night. It's a little stinky but I didn't see the point in getting one.The lid blocks the stink enough.

I suggest getting a lot of picture board books - with just one picture per page. My son loves those books and we started looking at them really early on. He started to recognize pictures of dogs and cats and babies at a very early stage and would smile. Now that he's 15 months, he 'reads' to himself a lot. He still looks at the very simple board books as well as more detailed one too (he still doesn't get to have paper paged books when 'reading' to himself yet because they would be all torn up lol). A good collection of board books and/or a library card I say, is a must.

Are you going to breastfeed? I highly recommend Jack Newman's Guide to Breastfeeding, Revised Edition book. Also, find out where lactation consultants are located just in case you need to use one. I highly suggest at least getting a handheld pump so you can have a little time to go out and someone else can parent/babysit. I also suggest getting bamboo breastpads.... if you aren't planning on breastfeeding, just ignore ;)

I would not spend money on a wipes warmer, a bottle warmer (especially if you're breastfeeding), a fancy bassinet, an expensive pack 'n play, a fancy swing, a vibrating bouncy chair. Both the swing and the bouncy chairs are hit and miss for babies - my son didn't like either.

I would be a highchair that changed heights, a travel chair (if you visit a lot), and a baby bouncer - it'll give you some place to put junior when they're more mobile and you have to pee. I hate our exersaucer though - they're loud (thank goodness it was given to us! I would have been so upset had I spent a fortune on it lol).

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Present for baby AND DAD?

katwoman

My friend has had her 1st baby; a girl. Based on her at-work comments, Daddy seems a little immature. I want to spend about $40.00, and I would like to get a present that would help Daddy bond with baby.
I thought of a baby backpack. Any brand suggestions?
Any other ideas?
Thanks for your help.

Answer
Eddie Bauer makes reasonably priced bags in masculine colors.

You could also look into these books:

A Dad's Guide to the First Year
Rookie Dad
101 Secrets a Good Dad Knows
The Don't Sweat Guide for Dads

Does Pottery barn teen backpacks last long?

x0xlynn

I'm looking for a backpack for school and want a long lasting one.

Answer
well they should, i dont see why not. just to be safe, i wouldnt carry too much weight in it and i wouldnt set it on the floor or anywhere it could be stepped on, or spilled on act like the backpack is your baby! :) haha jk, but still, i think from the price your paying for it, it should last a while as long as you dont overuse it.

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Hi, I seriously need help about newborn baby?

IV

hello everyone, i am 18 weeks pregnant now. I went to IKEA today to see what would I need when the child is born. I must confess, I had no idea how to use half of the stuff available there for babies. I got really depressed. I didnt know what to buy and what not. I have never been around newborn babies, and here i am, a single mom with no clues. dont know how to handle them. Please give me the minimum list of the things I would need immediately after the child is born and until the child is 6 months. Also, please help me if there is something I need to be extra careful about.

Answer
well, your motherly instincts will kick in, unless u are taking medications or drugs. If you have money to spend i would get a baby harness (attaches to you so u can carry baby hands free with backpack like straps, i got mine from walmart by infantino for 30 bux, it is a LIFESAVER newborns like to be really close to you and held all the time, mine did atleast, sometimes the only way i could sleep was with my baby sleeping on my chest and my arms would be right there making sure she didnt roll off, im a light sleeper. I used the harness for her because i couldnt even get dishes done without her screaming to be held. id always rush to shower because she was crying. Nurses at the hospital will teach you how to swaddle your baby in a blanket and dont be shy to ask for tips. I did, because i had no clue either till i had my own, no one told me ANYTHING, I did LOTS of research online about EVERYTHING i could think of and still needed tips. heres what i do, i bought 3 packs of gerber plain white prefold cloth diapers and also 3 packs of birdseye flatfold. I fold the flatfold and use it as a diaper doubler cause shes a heavy wetter, DIAPER pins because they LOCK in place so they cant come undone and stab the baby. ordered them from amazon pack of 36 pins and i really dont need that many pins. I use VIVA paper towels for wipes and also i put them in the cloth diaper as a liner so when its a poopy diaper u just take the liner out for easy cleanup. I used winter fleece sleepers to keep her warm. Newborns can not hold their heads very well so u need to make sure she doesnt sleep with blankets or anywhere where she can suffocate. This is VERY important many babies die because of this neglect. So if u DO cosleep make sure u have a tight fitting sheet and that there is nothing plushy or cushiony nearby. the mattress should be firm and flat. if u cant get a bassinet i heard someone can use a dresser drawer as a bassinet so they dont roll out and onto the floor. i think some yoga mats are pretty firm and flat yet soft enough to provide more comfort than something cold and hard. u need a nose syringe bulb thing to suck snot out of the nose so they can breathe. be ready and have a bottle and formula just incase if breastfeeding doesnt work out. but keep in mind breastfeeding is way healthier and is a once in a lifetime thing that will boost her and keep her healthier throughout her entire life. I switched to burt bees tearless baby wash because i found out all the others had formaldehyde releasers, and my baby got cradlecap (eczema) i believe from that johnson crud which looks like scabs. also my baby had a weak trachea and u could hear noise when she breathes and i would get scarred because it seems like she had a hard time breathing took her to ER and said she would grow out of it and she has. but always call 911 if u think somethings not right. some babies have crying spells where they cry and turn blue cause they stop breathing. they poop every 2 hrs when newborns and eat every 2 hrs, they also need to get patted on the back to burp every 2 hrs because it will help prevent colic. Colic is like a gassy tummy that hurts, remember baby is new to everything and the world so any discomfort will make it cry. if u have extra money get some toys with lights and a mobil they love lights.Youtube has different cloth diaper folds to teach u, thats where i learned some techniques and then developed my own that suited her needs best. 12 diapers a day is expensive. i started solids at 6 months which is recomended by pediatrics because this is when they are able to digest 'solids' so u need baby spoons bibs and lots of washrags. burprags cause they spit up from time to time. a bouncer, a swing, and a johnny jump up are the best babysitters lol - also my baby i gave her a binky most of the time from 2months on because she would suck on it and it would make her throat muscles stronger since her windpipe flap was floppy. also it pacified her and relieved some stress from me so she wouldnt be pacified by me all the time. i needed LOTS of towels because i had so much milk for months when i was engorged leaking out everywhere i bought avent phillips reusable cloth nursing pads from amazon.com and also nursing tank tops for 5 dollars at walmart easy to take ur boob out and not be half naked trying to feed wherever u were baby gets hungry at the grocery store too. Kellymom.com is the best breastfeeding info site and so is dr.greene for different advice on things that may surprise u. such as green poop, for me the green poop was because at first ur milk u produce more foremilk than hindmilk and if baby gets to much foremilk it gives colic sometimes and also green poop. so i would express on a towel to get some of that foremilk out so baby would get more hindmilk and her poop would be more mustard like, sometimes it would be green tho, at 12weeks is when the hormone to produce well mixed milk. fenugreek tea increases supply. do not take aspirin it passes into ur milk and can cause reyes syndrome. at first u will have contractions when baby feeds on breasts but dont give up this is good for the both of u so ur uterus contracts quicker to its normal size. HAVE A BIRTHPLAN READY i wanted the belly button cord to be completely pulsed out till it was white, CORD BLOOD BANKING has healed 82-84 diseases. i could sit here and write a book lol. i'll keep this on watch incase if u want more information. my baby is 8months old and i had a normal birth no complications besides pain and she did not have any shots. especially hep. B shot that is ridiculous to give to a newborn who is developing brain (sorry but my baby will not be on the streets shootin up or havin sex as an infant so therefore the hep. b shot can either wait because of all the toxins or not get it at all), read the vaccine insert ask for it before u give baby anything in a needle. utube bill gates vaccines.

baby hand holder?

Rose V

i have a 3 yr old VERY ACTIVE boy. I used to use http://www.ebay.ph/viItem?ItemId=230057824899 when we shop, but I read in the internet that the holder has lead content. Where can I buy a similar one that is safe for my kid?

I hope somebody can help me. Thanks!

Answer
Walmart has one that is much safer than the holder around the wrist. It is a harness around the waist and shoulders. They have different ones, one has its own little backpack attachment to make your little one feel grown up. The hand harness, or leash as my husband calls it. Isnt really safe, it can hurt your little ones wrist or arm if he tries to pull away. It can also pull through the loop too tightly and then you have to cut it off his arm. I know that from experiance when we took my son to Sea World. Trust me, the harness is much better choice to go with.

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I want a baby, should I go against my parent's wish?

Star GM

my boyfriend wants a baby with me, I want it too, but I know i'll be goin against my parent's wish, coz they want me to finish my studies & get married b4 i have a child. so gettin pregnant now means I have to quit college & it'll hurt my parents specially my mum. At the end of the day I think It's my life & I have to make my own decisions... but I'm finding it hard to know that i'll let my family down, even though I really want to a kid & I just want to leave my life my own way rather than living it for my parents. what do I do??

Answer
It completely normal and natural for a young woman to get "baby fever" many times during her life (its also normal that some ladies will NEVER experience it) - we've all be there (most of us have, at least!!). The thing is, just because you "feel" it, doesn't mean its the best time for YOU. Try to remember, your paren'ts arent setting out "rules" for you, just to get in your way, control your life, etc. They are a bit older, they've "been there, done that", so they consider themselves "wiser" and they want to help guide you down a path that will sidestep the mistakes they've made. As a mom, myself, I can tell you this - there is NOTHING more important to me than to see my daughter have a wonderful life. i want her to be wildly happy, have every opportunity in the world, have fun, be treated well by others, know what its like to be independent, be a "career woman", date a few great men (collect an arsenal of amazing memories), travel a bit - do all she wishes to do before shes tied down by commitments and dependents. Im certain this is all your parents want for you as well. They aren't saying to wait because they don't want you to be happy - they are saying it because they DO want you to be happy. The thing is, that they know, and you do NOT yet know, is how drastically a baby will change YOU, your life, your opportunities. It goes without saying that a child is a blessing, no matter when he/she arrives. BUT, its just as true that a baby now, will effect your chances of graduating college, pursuing your dreams, locking down an amazing job (with an equally amazing salary), and giving you time to find the "perfect" guy, having your dream wedding, a relaxing and romantic honeymoon - the works! THOSE things, they make up a "life". If you have a child right now, that child will make up your life. And like I said, Im a mom, and if all I ever had, and all I ever did, was raise my daughter - then Id be fine with that. Shes amazing, and being a mom is the most rewarding thing Ive even done. What it is NOT is...the most fun, most relaxing, most adventurous "unless you consider someone chewing on your nipples for 9 mos adventurous..haha", its not something where you "choose" anything, ever again (baby chooses for you!), you wont be able to grab a cuppa coffee with your girlfriends, much less backpack across Barcelona. All Im saying is this - and its what I would, and WILL, tell my daughter. I hope, beyond all hope, that she becomes a mother one day. In fact, when she does, that will be the happiest day of my life, hands down. But I want more than that for her - I want EVERYTHING for her! I want her to have so many memories of her 20s that she cant hide her smile when she thinks of em. i never want her to feel regret or resentment towards her child/children, bc she feels like she "missed out" on something. I never want her to feel like she will live "pay check to pay check" because she wasn't able to pursue her career before bowing out of the workforce to be a mom. I dont want her to ever have to face being a "single mom", bc they guy who "wanted kids as much as she did", found out how tough it REALLY is, and bails. Im here to tell ya, that happens ALL THE TIME. And while a man can walk away, a woman is a mom from the day she pees on the stick, and every day after. Shes "ALL IN". I wish you could spend one day in your moms head, and know how pure her intentions are. Shes not suggesting you wait, so that you will be unhappy now - heavens no. She wants you to wait so that when you DO have a baby, theres nothing left to chance, you've done all the "single gal" stuff anyone could have dreamed of. You wouldn't be disappointed IN you, My Dear, they would be disappointed FOR you - and while that baby would come along in a few months, and it would change everyones life for the better - they would always wonder - why couldn't we have just held this off a bit, so she could have everything - literally EVERYTHING life has to offer. No one is suggesting you not be a mom. Theres nothing like it, you'll be "complete" when that finally happens. But, why rush. Why not rack up a few other grand memories in the meantime - no harm in that, right?

I know you feel how you feel, and Im some stranger - but I hope you at least here me out....

Good Luck Lovely!!! Youll be a great mom..when its time :O)

PS - for perspective only, say youre giving advice to YOUR daughter, on the issue. Treat yourself like you would treat your young daughter - what would you want for HER in this situation? That helps me sometimes...

What is a good baby shower theme?

ur mom

I need a baby shower theme for a boy and girl. And I need to no some gifts I should put on the registry and prizes for some games

Answer
Themes:
Some people go with themes others do not...they have abc themes, pooh, disney babies, jungle animals, monkeys, sea life, forest animals etc...

Gift ideas:
This is walmart.com checklist for a new baby:D

Crib or bassinet / co-sleeper
Waterproof crib liner
Crib mattress
Mattress pad
Fitted sheets (cotton or flannel)
Crib bedding set
Crib blankets (3-5)
Crib lights (2)
Receiving blankets (4-5)
Sleep positioner
Changing table
Changing pads and covers
Dresser / armoire
Rocking chair or gliding rocker
Ottoman or nursing stool
Hamper
Nursery monitor
Mobile
Crib mirror
Crib toys
Lamp
Rug
Toy box
Nursery storage
Window treatments
Clothing / Layette (for newborn to 6 months)
Home-from-the-hospital outfit
Pullover T-shirts
Side-snap T-shirts
Onesies or bodysuits
Layette sets
Sleeping gowns or stretchies
Footed rompers
Top and pant sets
Mittens
Blanket
Swaddlers
Baby laundry detergent
Lightweight cotton sweaters (2)
Booties and socks
Shoes (2)
Snowsuit (for winter babies)
Warm hats (2)
Baby hangers
Diapers
Diaper bag
Diaper pail and liners
Rash ointment and powders
Wipes
Wipes warmer
Travel pack wipes
Infant tub
Tub splash seat
Hooded towels (2-4)
Baby lotion
Baby oil
Baby shampoo
Bath toys
Tub toy pouch
Hooded towels (2-4)
Baby washcloths (4-6)
Tub thermometer
Elbow cushion
Foam tub insert
Tub spout cover
Bath gift set
Feeding
Plastic bottle (4 and 8 oz) nipples and nipple covers
Bottle sterilizer
Bottle liners
Breast pads, shields and cream
Nursing bras (4)
Nursing shirts (2)
Nursing cover-up
Breast pump kit
Lap pads and burp cloths
Nursing pillow
Nursing stool
Case(s) of formula
Bibs (6-10)
Teethers
Feeding spoons (4)
Training (spill-proof) cups (3-4)
Highchair
Highchair cover
Feeding seat
Pacifiers
Dishwasher-safe nipples
Bottle drying rack
Bowls
Bottle brush
Bottle warmer
Highchair splat mat
Dishwasher nipple basket
Travel formula dispenser
Milk storage bags
Gas relief drops
First-aid supplies
Thermometer
Humidifier
Baby brush and comb
Nail clippers
Nasal aspirator
Infant tooth and gum cleaner
Alcohol swabs
Baby fever reducer
Cotton swabs
Baby grooming kit
Shopping cart cover
Baby monitor
Safety gate
Nightlights
Carbon monoxide detector
Outlet covers
Corner covers
Door knob covers
Cabinet locks
Toilet seat locks
Baby harness
Fireplace cover
Toys
Bouncer seat
Swing
Rattles & Teethers
Gym or play mat
Jumper
Mobile for nursery
Activity center / walker
Car seat / stroller toys
Guide books on pregnancy, childbirth, breastfeeding and parenting
Lullaby music
Books for siblings
Educational music movies
Rear-facing infant car seat
Car seat head support
Stroller
Sling or soft carrier
Backpack carrier (for when baby outgrows soft carrier)
Portable crib
Playpen / playard
Stroller cup holder
Travel booster seat
Sunshade
Extra car seat base
Stroller frame
Toy auto mirror
Digital camera
Camcorder
Baby album
Baby journal
Picture frames
Disposable camera
Personalized gifts

Baby shower prizes:
Unique Shower Prize Ideas from ( http://www.cutest-baby-shower-ideas.com/baby-shower-prizes.html )



â¢Gift Certificates from a cute little boutique, coffee shop or book store

â¢Candles

â¢Lotions

â¢A Picture Frame

â¢A Recipe Box

â¢A Cool Mug From Starbucks

â¢Potted Plants

â¢Tea Cup, Saucer and Tea Bags

â¢Bath Salts and Bath Beads

â¢Cute Soaps

â¢Dish Towels

â¢Stationary

â¢Cool Kitchen Gadgets

â¢A Washcloth and Bar of Soap Tied Together With Raffia

â¢Baby Shaped Cookies

â¢Baby Themed Lollipops

â¢Polka Dot Painted Terra Cotta Pots - with seed packets in them

â¢Cute Little Handbags

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best type of baby carrier or wrap?

Star L

Do you like baby front carriers, backpacks, wraps, mobi wraps or mei tai wraps?

Whats the easiest and most comfy wrap? or do you just carry your baby without one?

Answer
The worst I have tried is the babybjorn. HATE it. I don't think it is designed well for baby or for mom's back. I used it ONCE when my baby was less then 8 lbs & my back hurt within 15 mins. Not good. It was adjusted well, I knew it was as I had a good friend with me letting me borrow it. She had used it a lot. Plus it's pretty basic, not too hard to figure out. We readjusted & readjusted, I just hated it. My favorite overall is the Ergo, hands down. But each type has pros & cons & some are better for certain ages & depending on what you want from your carrier. If you want handsfree nursing with small babies then a stretchy wrap like Moby is the right answer. If you want to be able to wear baby for a wide array of ages & weights & for longer periods of time, then an Ergo is a better suggestion. It is more about what YOU want from a carrier then which carrier is best. Ergos are bulky - so they are hard to just tote along "in case". Ones that tote well are rind slings, peanut shell styles or continuous loop slings, but you need to be careful of those styles with very small babies & make sure they are positioned well. Mei tais' are more of a carrier then a wrap & are awesome if you want something that you can wear for a bit, is a bit more take along "just in case" as it's less bulky then an Ergo & they come in a ton of really gorgeous fabrics.

Like I said I do love my ergo - but the drawbacks are this...they aren't as pretty as many of the other types, they are definitely bulky, so it's not easy to just bring it along in case you might want to use it. i do keep mine in the car a lot, but even tucking it in the basket under the stroller fills the whole basket for me just about. They also are a bit pricey compared to some of the others. The pros are that it really does put the weight onto your hips, not your back. My 5 yr old can still fit in it & he is average size for age AND he is almost half my weight. I can carry him fine. My legs will burn, but my back doesn't feel a thing. You are NOT supposed to put a child that heavy in there, but it was at Disney & the little one was sleeping in the stroller & the big one was VERY tired...so you make due right? Anyway, it is rated to 45 lbs. It is also easy for me to put on my tiny petite frame (as in 100lbs) & in no time I can take it off, hand it to Dh & he can adjust it to fit his nearly 6 ft frame in just a minute. He had no trouble using it from day one. By that I mean he wasn't bothered by it because it wasn't girly AND he had no trouble getting it adjusted without instruction or confusion & my 1st son was worn by daddy a LOT. We have had ours nearly 5 yrs. We have used it & I have loaned twice to relatives. It has been laundered a LOT & it still looks basically new, despite being under almost constant use. My 1st child was in it EVERY day literally. It is how I got things done. He liked to be held, I needed to move. The only thing an Ergo won't do is allow a child to be in front forward facing. There is some controversy about having a baby set that way in a structured carrier anyway though, as many warn it could put pressure on the spine & hips to have them set on their crotch. I the ergo they set on their butt & their legs kind of wrap around you versus hang.

he funny thing I ONLY had an ergo with my 1st child & he loved it & so did I. baby #2 comes along & I thought a Moby would be nice for newborn stage - he hated it. So I got a slingling (continuous loop) and a friend let me borrow her babybjorn, then I got a Mei Tai (Baby Hawk) & Maya Wrap (ring sling), (I think this is when I needed rehab - but anyway), then I got one of the hip hold type (can't remember the name brand) and I got fed up! My child didn't love any of them & neither did I. When I first put him in the Ergo & he didn't really like it the way my 1st had - it never occurred to me that he might not like CARRIERS. Well that was it. He tolerated the Ergo better than any of the other ones I bought & we went back to that - plus that one felt good to my back & was easy to put on alone & take off. So I liked them all for different reasons (other than the bjorn) - but my baby hated them for some mysterious reason I cannot quantify. I have sold most of them or given them away & the only one I won't is my ergo. Until my ovaries shrivel & fall out, I will hold onto it "in case" because when it works, it works so well. My 2nd finally decided to like carriers when he was around 10 months old & at 26 months is now a pro in the ergo. When he wants in he calls it giddyup. :)

When was your baby strong enough to be carried in a hiking backpack carrier?

Mary

My baby is six and a half months old, and can sit for about a minute or two unassisted before she tips! Should she be sitting really securely before she goes into one?

Can you recommend a good one?
I've got a baby bjorn active which I love, it's just my baby is in a phase where she wants to be held all day. She doesn't like not being able to see, so she breaks her neck in the bjorn if she's facing me. If she's facing out, she grabs everything! I'm wondering if a back pack carrier is a solution.

Answer
I had my sons in backpacks at that age. I would put little blankets on each side to keep them straight until they were strong enough to do it themselves.

I can not recommend a carrier only because I use mine for little things (ball games, grocery store) I do not know about backpacks for hiking...but I do know they have some really great ones out there!

P.S. Carriers in the front are great, but if you have a fat baby they do hurt your back after a while in front carriers. So, I always had to move my children to the backpacks.

Have fun!!

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Why is my baby trying to kill me?

chloe

She's a sweet adorable baby, who loves everyone. She likes to hug and kiss, and cuddle, and she's such a good baby but..

She's almost 10 months, and still wakes up every hour or two at night to nurse. She hardly sleeps all day, and when she does, I have to be next to her because she won't sleep in her crib EVER, and I don't want her to fall of the bed.
In order for her to have her solids, i have to sing dance, and tell her stories, or she won't eat.
She won't stay in her playpen for more than 3 minutes, she won't sit in her high chair, or in her crib. I have to cook, clean and eat while holding her in my arms. I guess she's teething now, because it's gotten a little worse, and I feel like pulling my hair out.
I get no sleep, no time to eat, or take care of myself at all. I have no time for anything at all, not even my poor husband, and basically everything I do, has to be done with a baby hanging from my breast.

This is my first baby. Are all babies like that?
Adrianne, I'm not asking for your sympathy, I just wanted to know if all babies are so difficult. And I know my precious little angel isn't trying to kill me. I'm joking. Relax ok!
LG, thank you so much, I never expected such wonderful and understanding words from a person that doesn't have kids. You're going to make a great father one day.
Tanya, Thank you thank you, thank you!! I checked out the link you gave me, and I thought they were talking about my baby. I feel so much better having read that it's not my fault, and I'm not spoiling her. I could just hug you, and Dr Sears!

Answer
#1 SLEEP
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Baby proof your bed, put one side against the wall and for the other side by one of the "bed rails" that just slips under the mattress. Pretty soon she will be old enough to climb on and off the bed on her own. OR babyproof her room (bolt furniture to the wall, block outlets and make sure anything plugged in cannot be unplugged.) and get a twin mattress for her floor, get rid of the crib ;-). Then she can't "fall" out of the bed in her room and you can nurse her to sleep.

Also if you cosleep at night, as I do, consider using the crib as a sidecar. Remove the drop side and attach the crib to the side of the bed, you need to make sure the mattresses remain snug together, usually you have to put some padding between the far side of the crib mattress and the bars (I use some old rolled up sheets for mattress sizes I don't have anymore -but I just can't throw out sheets *sigh*)

Also it is developmentally normal for many breastfed babies to still be waking at night to nurse. Mine was up about every 1-3 hours at the age. Less often once I was actually in bed for the night. Of course going in to nurse baby back to sleep every 90 minutes means I didn't get much done in the evenings. Frequent night waking is particularly common in babies who don't nurse well during the day because they are too busy. I have yet to see even one piece of research that suggests ANY health or developmental benefits for a baby or toddler to sleep through the night. I have seen many studies that show it is normal, reduces SIDS risk, and encourages proper brain development. It was around 14 months that my son started going 4-6 hours one stretch at night. Now at 18 months he's good for 7-8 but before that he is up every 1-2 hours (until I go to bed) and after that he is snack, snack, snack.

If the sleep arrangement either the co-sleeping or the frequency of night feedings is bothersome to you many moms have success with this book:
http://amazon.com/s/ref=nb_ss_gw/002-1801174-3708019?initialSearch=1&url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=no+cry+sleep+solution+Pantley&Go.x=0&Go.y=0&Go=Go

#2 FOOD
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Just stop driving yourself nuts! She doesn't *need* anything except breastmilk. Until age 1 or later solids are for fun, socializing and learning. And right now she is probably having fun and learning how to train mommy but not really learning much about solids.

Offer her food, preferably real foods not baby foods that she can feed herself. And sit there and share them. If she eats she eats, if she doesn't she doesn't. Also this makes you eat healthier. Lots of fruit and veggies, limit salt and sugar. My son ate about 4-5 days per week, and only one meal between ages 10-12 months. After 12 months he started eating a lot more, probably because I got pregnant and morning sickness effected my supply.

Why safe feeding is safe and beneficial for breastfed babies
http://www.borstvoeding.com/voedselintroductie/vast_voedsel/rapley_guidelines.html#choke

http://www.askdrsears.com/faq/bf4.asp
This means that infants can go for at least a year on breast milk alone, without eating any foods, and be nutritionally complete. Offering foods between 6 and 12 months of age is simply for social development and to get infants used to eating.

Nourishing a baby (some of this page is useful, some I disagree with, worth a read though)
http://www.westonaprice.org/children/nourish-baby.html


#3 "Velcro" baby.
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Can you put her in a back-style carrier? Either a backpack or a wrap? That can allow you to cook and do the dishes.

Let her "help" fold the laundry. (I let my son throw all the socks and underwear into a basket). She can "help" sweep, dust, etc too.

Spend more time actually interacting in the morning, singing songs, games, flashcards, whatever. Sometimes if you pay upfront they are more likely to let you walk away for a few minutes ;). Also these books have some great really short exercises to break up the day (and by short I mean like 30seconds to 3 minutes). http://www.gentlerevolution.com/mm5/merchant.mvc?Screen=CTGY&Store_Code=G&Category_Code=B4
(BTW these books are available at most bookstores, there is just a bit more info on them here. And of course reviews on amazon so you don't have to just take my word for it)


#4 Independence
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Your almost there, soon your baby will be off walking around, disassembling the humidifier, building block towers and assembling lego. Of course she'll still check in every 10 minutes if she's like my toddler (hehe unless he is in something he shouldn't be).

By meeting her needs now you really, really ARE making her more independent in the long run!

#5 Some other advice:
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Get out of the house! Go to the park for an hour every day, join mommy groups. Walk around the mall. The break is good for you and generally toddlers respond well to a little stimulation.







http://www.kathydettwyler.org/detsleepthrough.html
The same is true of sleeping. Human children are designed to be sleeping with their parents. The sense of touch is the most important sense to primates, along with sight. Young primates are carried on their mother's body and sleep with her for years after birth, often until well after weaning. The expected pattern is for mother and child to sleep together, and for child to be able to nurse whenever they want during the night. Normal, healthy, breastfed and co-sleeping children do not sleep "through the night" (say 7-9 hours at a stretch) until they are 3-4 years old, and no longer need night nursing. I repeat -- this is NORMAL and HEALTHY. Dr. James McKenna's research on co-sleeping clearly shows the dangers of solitary sleeping in young infants, who slip into abnormal patterns of very deep sleep from which it is very difficult for them to rouse themselves when they experience an episode of apnea (stop breathing). When co-sleeping, the mother is monitoring the baby's sleep and breathing patterns, even though she herself is asleep. When the baby has an episode of apnea, she rouses the baby by her movements and touch. This is thought to be the primary mechanism by which co-sleeping protects children from Sudden Infant Death Syndrome. In other words, many cases of SIDS in solitary sleeping children are thought to be due to them having learned to sleep for long stretches at a time at a very early age, so they find themselves in these deep troughs of sleep, then they may experience an episode of apnea, and no one is there to notice or rouse them from it, so they just never start breathing again. Co-sleeping also allows a mother to monitor the baby's temperature during the night, to be there if they spit up and start to choke, and just to provide the normal, safe environment that the baby/child has been designed to expect.

[...]

Human children are designed (whether you believe by millions of years of evolution, or by God, it doesn't matter) -- to nurse *very* frequently, based on the composition of the milk of the species, the fact that all higher primates (Primates are the zoological Order to which humans belong, higher primates include monkeys and apes) keep their offspring in the mother's arms or on her back for several years, the size of the young child's stomach, the rapidity with which breast milk is digested, the need for an almost constant source of nutrients to grow that huge brain (in humans, especially), and so on. By very frequently, I mean 3-4 times per hour, for a few minutes each time. The way in which some young infants are fed in our culture -- trying to get them to shift to a 3-4 hour schedule, with feedings of 15-20 minutes at a time, goes against our basic physiology. But humans are very adaptable, and some mothers will be able to make sufficient milk with this very infrequent stimulation and draining of the breasts, and some children will be able to adapt to large meals spaced far apart. Unfortunately, some mothers don't make enough milk with this little nursing, and some babies can't adjust, and so are fussy, cry a lot, seem to want to nurse "before it is time" and fail to grow and thrive. Of course, usually the mother's body is blamed -- "You can't make enough milk" -- rather than the culturally-imposed expectation that feeding every 3-4 hours should be sufficient, and the mother begins supplementing with formula, which leads to a steady spiral downward to complete weaning from the breast.


Are you feeling overwhelmed by your child's intense needs?
http://www.kellymom.com/parenting/velcrochild.html


Nursing All the Time
Frequent feedings may be biologically more normal than the three-or four-hour schedule new parents expect
http://www.todaysparent.com/article.jsp?content=1266685

Straight Talk About Real Babies
Defining New-mom Expectations
http://breastfeed.com/resources/articles/expectation.htm

So I Nursed Him Every 45 Minutes
By Elizabeth N. Baldwin, Esq.
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A list of things one needs for a new baby?

Full Moon

I'm going to be a first time mom in June and I know the basics of things I will need but I still always have feelings that I might forget something that I need, as I've never done this before. Can anyone direct me to a good list of things or list some things? Thanks a lot.

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babyzone.com has a list of things to buy when it comes to babies and its a fairly good list but keep in mind that all of this great stuff you buy you may bever use take your lifestyle into consideration when shoping like i never use their dresser my twins livge out of their clean laundry basketchangeing table i dont use the couch/floor/bed work greatchangeing pads are a must play pen is not nessicary untill the baby is quite a bit older 5-7 months unless you have pts who may not know how to mind their mannors bouncy seats or nice but optional swins are a must have crib is optional depending on if you want to sleep with your baby bassinets are a total waste of money the babies out grow them too quickly bath tubs are optional nice to have but not nessicaryboppy pillow for breast feeding is great but optional normal pillows work too burp rags are a must tons of blankets i recomend the fleace ones they soft and warmreciveing blankets are useless big fluffy quilts a no no they can sufocate the baby so that cute crib bumper set is best used with bumpers on the crib and the blanket a verry pretty decoration on the wall play gyms arent needed till baby is 4 months + lots of 0-3 clothes oly a few newborn sizes for pictures and the return from the hospital of course a car seat is a must if you go for the carrier/car seat its handy untill they baby reaches 20 lbs if you go for the convertable a baby carrier front strap backpack type is a must gas drops are a must name brand is mylecon but there is a generic brad for double the size half the price and works just fine baby lotion soap both have to have baby disposable wah cloths are optional but verry nice to have big fluffy towels are a must in my house the babies like them and they make it more fun for me to cuddle after bath time need more help message me by clicking my picture under contact user go to email ill answer any questions

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Would the Lesportsac Voyager Backpack be suitable for highschool?

Tiffany

I really love the style of the backpack and I've been told that it's roomy enough for books and binders but I want to know if it will last and if it's worth the price. I really need help with this before school starts In August. Thanks.

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I think that backpack is fine for travel or even as a baby bag, but to use everyday and hauling textbooks and notebooks, I don't think it will last. The material is not that durable to withstand sharp corners of hardbound books and notebooks over time. I would stick to a backpack made with either a heavy weight canvas or denier cordura fabric.

How to travel with newborn internationally?

zawjatuabd

I would like to travel soon with my 7 week old baby to Canada so he can see his grandparents. This will be a 22 hr flight via airplane! How soon can I travel and how I carry him with me conveniently? car seat, stroller what kind, backpack carrier? Anyone tried travelling w a newborn- can u give me tips

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Oh wow i will be travelling from Canada hopefully within a week so her grandparents can see her and that will 22 hours of flight too but the difference is she will 4 months actually i wanted to go since she was 1 month but passport took some time. well the advices i got and after searching on different websites i came to know that:
When you get your tickets just ask them if there is anyway they can give you the seat where you can hook a bassinet up for the baby.
Take lots of diapers, pacifier, wipes, 2 to 3 change of cloths,
Make sure you take a soft blanket of your lill one.
Please don't drug the baby with Benadryl it can create more problem for you because sometimes babies get cranky.
Just make sure that u are feeding the kid (either bottle or breast feed) at the time of take off and landing so that he/she isn't cranky due to air pressure.
Btw dont worry your baby will be sleeping most of the time :)
Good luck!

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