kat
i may sound kind of stupid the fact that i'm 17, but i'm pretty mature for my age & am tired of being a kid, i don't even know how to be a kid anymore. i was pregnant about 5 months ago & lost it. & since then, i just want to have a baby. i feel like i would be able to handle it. but the thing is.. my boyfriend says hes not quite ready, even tho we were almost going to have one, where he would of had to be ready. he says in a few years at least, but i really want one now... & i told him that if i were to accidentally get pregnant again, that id keep it & he said he knows i would & that he wouldn't tell me otherwise. i just am not patient all the time.. i don't know what i'm supposed to do? i can't just be like i want one, get me pregnant...he's too cautious of not getting me pregnant. since i'm off birth control since apparently it didn't work.. he makes sure that every time we use a condom. so, i have no idea what to say or do.....
So everyone knows though, we are planning on getting married and having kids eventually. :) & i'm not just day dreaming about it, it will happen.
Answer
I thought I wanted a baby when I was in my early twenties, and I had one when I was twenty three. The downside is that you are responsible for that kid 24/7 for the next eighteen or more years. You have NO IDEA. Babies don't usually sleep during the night. I remember asking someone when would my son ever sleep through the night, because I felt like I was DYING I was so sleep deprived.
Then, the baby will want to eat - EVERY TWO HOURS. And you have to feed them nutritious things like BREAST MILK - can you say MASTITIS (formula costs a fortune and face it, it's not optimal for babies). And then you have to buy nutritious food, and then they BARF and PEE and sometimes even POOP ON YOU. This is disgusting, no matter what you think. And sometimes they PROJECTILE VOMIT. Trust me on this one, you do not want this. I had no idea.
Then they do an even more wonderful thing - the cute little baby you think you want will one day turn into a teenager. How do I know this? Because my cute little baby is now fifteen, and he is happy to tell me to go f myself, and spends most of his time (whenever possible) playing Grand Theft Auto on his XBox. I've caught him smoking twice and my husband found a hash pipe in his backpack. Lots of fun.
Oh, and he has a small learning disability called DYSLEXIA, and so we pay $170 AN HOUR to a psychologist and about $400 a month to a special tutor. We are LUCKY THOUGH, because otherwise he is pretty healthy. And he's really not a bad kid, he's just going through typical teenage stuff.
Three years ago I adopted a six pound Havanese from Petfinder.com. She was a senior dog, and she came with a wardrobe. She had kidney problems and didn't like to drink water so I gave her water with a needleless syringe and spoon fed her special soft food that I would cook for her because she had no teeth.
I soon realized that when I was young, I hadn't really wanted a baby, what I had really wanted was a tiny little creature that I could spoon feed and bottle feed and dress up whenever I felt like, but then when I DIDN'T FEEL LIKE IT, I could put her in her little bed and go out, without having to pay someone $5-$10 an hour to make sure she stayed alive until I got home.
Oh, and my little dog never projectile vomited on me. And she never whined, or told me in the middle of a restaurant that she hated me because I wouldn't buy her ice cream when she wouldn't eat her dinner, and she didn't take two twenties out of my wallet when I wasn't looking, and she didn't demand clothes from DC or wear skinny jeans and plaster posters of Ozzy and KISS all over the walls. (My son tells me that the naked girl posters are coming - I can't wait.)
If you have a baby and you don't have a good education and an excellent income and a stable support system - in other words, extended family who actually WANT to help (and I don't mean your poor 40 something year old mother who is DREADING becoming a grandmother at such a young age) and hopefully a stable male role model, then YOU WILL BE MISERABLE FOR MANY YEARS. Please trust me on this one.
Adopt a tiny dog (or cat) that needs a home. Dress him or her up. Spoon feed him baked sweet potatoes. Buy him fluffy sweaters and lay him in a soft little bed, and love and adore him the way you think you want to with a baby. You will be so much happier.
If you don't believe me, I'll put my son on a bus tomorrow and you can have a first hand experience of what I mean. He doesn't projectile vomit anymore though, but he eats A LOT.
I thought I wanted a baby when I was in my early twenties, and I had one when I was twenty three. The downside is that you are responsible for that kid 24/7 for the next eighteen or more years. You have NO IDEA. Babies don't usually sleep during the night. I remember asking someone when would my son ever sleep through the night, because I felt like I was DYING I was so sleep deprived.
Then, the baby will want to eat - EVERY TWO HOURS. And you have to feed them nutritious things like BREAST MILK - can you say MASTITIS (formula costs a fortune and face it, it's not optimal for babies). And then you have to buy nutritious food, and then they BARF and PEE and sometimes even POOP ON YOU. This is disgusting, no matter what you think. And sometimes they PROJECTILE VOMIT. Trust me on this one, you do not want this. I had no idea.
Then they do an even more wonderful thing - the cute little baby you think you want will one day turn into a teenager. How do I know this? Because my cute little baby is now fifteen, and he is happy to tell me to go f myself, and spends most of his time (whenever possible) playing Grand Theft Auto on his XBox. I've caught him smoking twice and my husband found a hash pipe in his backpack. Lots of fun.
Oh, and he has a small learning disability called DYSLEXIA, and so we pay $170 AN HOUR to a psychologist and about $400 a month to a special tutor. We are LUCKY THOUGH, because otherwise he is pretty healthy. And he's really not a bad kid, he's just going through typical teenage stuff.
Three years ago I adopted a six pound Havanese from Petfinder.com. She was a senior dog, and she came with a wardrobe. She had kidney problems and didn't like to drink water so I gave her water with a needleless syringe and spoon fed her special soft food that I would cook for her because she had no teeth.
I soon realized that when I was young, I hadn't really wanted a baby, what I had really wanted was a tiny little creature that I could spoon feed and bottle feed and dress up whenever I felt like, but then when I DIDN'T FEEL LIKE IT, I could put her in her little bed and go out, without having to pay someone $5-$10 an hour to make sure she stayed alive until I got home.
Oh, and my little dog never projectile vomited on me. And she never whined, or told me in the middle of a restaurant that she hated me because I wouldn't buy her ice cream when she wouldn't eat her dinner, and she didn't take two twenties out of my wallet when I wasn't looking, and she didn't demand clothes from DC or wear skinny jeans and plaster posters of Ozzy and KISS all over the walls. (My son tells me that the naked girl posters are coming - I can't wait.)
If you have a baby and you don't have a good education and an excellent income and a stable support system - in other words, extended family who actually WANT to help (and I don't mean your poor 40 something year old mother who is DREADING becoming a grandmother at such a young age) and hopefully a stable male role model, then YOU WILL BE MISERABLE FOR MANY YEARS. Please trust me on this one.
Adopt a tiny dog (or cat) that needs a home. Dress him or her up. Spoon feed him baked sweet potatoes. Buy him fluffy sweaters and lay him in a soft little bed, and love and adore him the way you think you want to with a baby. You will be so much happier.
If you don't believe me, I'll put my son on a bus tomorrow and you can have a first hand experience of what I mean. He doesn't projectile vomit anymore though, but he eats A LOT.
How can i stop my baby from crying?
Maria
I just came back from meeting my inlaws i was with them one month. Now my 10 month baby girl is crying so badly because she wants me to carry her since she was carried all the time over there how can i stop this its starting to get overwhelming because i cant get anything done around my house
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Get a good soft structured or unstructured backpack carrier. This is normal at her age. there is no way to teach her to not want to be carried, you have to feed her needs.
Get a good soft structured or unstructured backpack carrier. This is normal at her age. there is no way to teach her to not want to be carried, you have to feed her needs.
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