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Q. I am 32 years old and 8 months pregnant with my first baby. I will be raising her on my own, and want to be the best mother I can be. I have read most of the books, researched a lot online, and still have many fears.
Any words of wisdom?
Any words of wisdom?
Answer
Congratulations! It seems you have done everything I have done when I had my son (now 5 y.o.) - books didn't help much⦠only gave me the basic idea on things. I did talk to parents online, there are message boards you can participate in and get advice from other parents.
Not everything that worked for others will work for you so it's best to keep an open mind, listen to your instincts and remember to rest physically and emotionally. If you can get any help of your friends to watch the baby so you could sleep - that will help you. I am still sleep deprived, five years later :).
If you happen to feel depressed after the delivery - a little baby blues are a normal thing as your hormones change, but if you feel the "blues" don't go away and starting to develop into a depression (lasting lets' say more than a month) - you may want to see a doctor and get her advice. I did get depressed after my son was born and it's hard caring for a baby when you're not feeling like doing anything at all...
People will tell you many, MANY things. Some will push their opinion onto you and some will make suggestions. It's best to keep an open mind. The way I looked at it - if this is something that my doctor tells me and I agree with it - that's the road I am going to take. If someone tells you smth outrageous and claims it works - use common sense and your best judgement. If ever in doubt - talking to other parents or a doctor [or both] usually provides enough useful information for you to make an educated decision.
Watch your budget - being a single mom can get tough financially. If you're planning on sending your child to day care - this can get a little pricey. What I learned from it - visit different day care centers, talk to teachers and ask questions. Walk through multiple rooms and review. If anything you don't like - move on to another center. And in my experience with childcare - you get what you pay for... Same goes for private babysitters and nannies â but I personally chose against hiring a nanny for safety reasons. I heard too many stories of abuse so I trust day care centers more because there is more structure there. And the day care center will be held accountable for every bump your child gets while in their care - so you know they will make sure to follow all the rules.
There's going to be lots of trial and error situations. As they say "it will get hard before it gets better" and with newborns it's very true. But even if you catch yourself thinking: "this will never end, I'll be stuck to this baby forever with no time for me" - no, you won't be. It's true that you will be glued to this child for the first year most likely and it will be hard to find time for yourself... But it's only until the baby starts walking, talking and etc... As the times goes by you will be getting your personal time back.
I agree with someone who said this earlier â take lots of pictures!
Wishing you the best of luck!
Ok, and here is the list of things I could not live without. Links are for information only â I am in no way soliciting any particular products, this is just a list of things I had and found they did work (for me). Maybe you will find it helpful.
- Vibrating bouncer with ocean sounds
http://www.amazon.com/Fisher-Price-Ocean-Wonders-Aquarium-Bouncer/dp/B000324Y7U
- Simethicone drops (Mylicon) which I added to my son's formula or gave by mouth (he had colic and these drops did majic to him)
http://www.medicinenet.com/simethicone_drops-oral/article.htm
-Tiny Love symphony-in-motion mobile
http://www.amazon.com/Tiny-Love-Symphony-Motion-Mobile/dp/B00067ELGG/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&s=baby-products&qid=1216408151&sr=1-2
- Enfamil formula (highly recommend if you choose to use formula).
- Gap backpack instead of a regular "diaper bag". I loved it - it looks great, not like a diaper bag, very roomy inside, convenient and the best thing - you throw it on your back, pick up the baby and off you go. Very easy.
(I tried to find a link but they don't sell them anymore...It used to be in "Diaper Bags" section on Gap website...)
- Dr. Brown baby bottles. They do work.
http://www.amazon.com/Dr-Browns-Natural-Flow-Bottle/dp/B00005BYUR
- Baby Einsten videos â my son loved them all!
http://babyeinstein.com/en/
Congratulations! It seems you have done everything I have done when I had my son (now 5 y.o.) - books didn't help much⦠only gave me the basic idea on things. I did talk to parents online, there are message boards you can participate in and get advice from other parents.
Not everything that worked for others will work for you so it's best to keep an open mind, listen to your instincts and remember to rest physically and emotionally. If you can get any help of your friends to watch the baby so you could sleep - that will help you. I am still sleep deprived, five years later :).
If you happen to feel depressed after the delivery - a little baby blues are a normal thing as your hormones change, but if you feel the "blues" don't go away and starting to develop into a depression (lasting lets' say more than a month) - you may want to see a doctor and get her advice. I did get depressed after my son was born and it's hard caring for a baby when you're not feeling like doing anything at all...
People will tell you many, MANY things. Some will push their opinion onto you and some will make suggestions. It's best to keep an open mind. The way I looked at it - if this is something that my doctor tells me and I agree with it - that's the road I am going to take. If someone tells you smth outrageous and claims it works - use common sense and your best judgement. If ever in doubt - talking to other parents or a doctor [or both] usually provides enough useful information for you to make an educated decision.
Watch your budget - being a single mom can get tough financially. If you're planning on sending your child to day care - this can get a little pricey. What I learned from it - visit different day care centers, talk to teachers and ask questions. Walk through multiple rooms and review. If anything you don't like - move on to another center. And in my experience with childcare - you get what you pay for... Same goes for private babysitters and nannies â but I personally chose against hiring a nanny for safety reasons. I heard too many stories of abuse so I trust day care centers more because there is more structure there. And the day care center will be held accountable for every bump your child gets while in their care - so you know they will make sure to follow all the rules.
There's going to be lots of trial and error situations. As they say "it will get hard before it gets better" and with newborns it's very true. But even if you catch yourself thinking: "this will never end, I'll be stuck to this baby forever with no time for me" - no, you won't be. It's true that you will be glued to this child for the first year most likely and it will be hard to find time for yourself... But it's only until the baby starts walking, talking and etc... As the times goes by you will be getting your personal time back.
I agree with someone who said this earlier â take lots of pictures!
Wishing you the best of luck!
Ok, and here is the list of things I could not live without. Links are for information only â I am in no way soliciting any particular products, this is just a list of things I had and found they did work (for me). Maybe you will find it helpful.
- Vibrating bouncer with ocean sounds
http://www.amazon.com/Fisher-Price-Ocean-Wonders-Aquarium-Bouncer/dp/B000324Y7U
- Simethicone drops (Mylicon) which I added to my son's formula or gave by mouth (he had colic and these drops did majic to him)
http://www.medicinenet.com/simethicone_drops-oral/article.htm
-Tiny Love symphony-in-motion mobile
http://www.amazon.com/Tiny-Love-Symphony-Motion-Mobile/dp/B00067ELGG/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&s=baby-products&qid=1216408151&sr=1-2
- Enfamil formula (highly recommend if you choose to use formula).
- Gap backpack instead of a regular "diaper bag". I loved it - it looks great, not like a diaper bag, very roomy inside, convenient and the best thing - you throw it on your back, pick up the baby and off you go. Very easy.
(I tried to find a link but they don't sell them anymore...It used to be in "Diaper Bags" section on Gap website...)
- Dr. Brown baby bottles. They do work.
http://www.amazon.com/Dr-Browns-Natural-Flow-Bottle/dp/B00005BYUR
- Baby Einsten videos â my son loved them all!
http://babyeinstein.com/en/
Romeo & Juliet one page summary help? Comparing Romeo and Juliet's one theme to today's society.?
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Hi Guys,
I need help writing one page summary for Romeo and Juliet play. In the 1st paragraph I am supposed to write about one theme from Act 1-Scene1-5 and in 2nd paragraph I am comparing that to todays society.For example, lack of marriage choices,generation gap,family feud,literacy any one of those or any other new ideas? I have to write at least 2 paragraphs.Can anybody help?
Answer
In R&J the feud between the families was the reason that they couldn't be together. A daughter's duty was to marry to benefit her family, and definitely not an enemy of her family. They were both teenagers and felt that, like most teenagers, they knew what was best. Sorry, but true. in R&J's time when people got married it was REALLY for life, whether you liked it or not, that was why they felt death was better than a life without each other, they just needed to clue each other in on their plan. Conversely, even though the marriages were engraved in stone, the morals weren't. Affairs were common, after the heir was produced, then discreet affairs were very common among the upper crust of society.
Comparing it to today's society... Every parent wants to see their child marry to someone who they feel is a "good" person. It doesn't have to be a feud between families in our society, but cultural differences, religious differences. Or something as simple as appearance. I remember when a guy came to pick up my baby girl (ok she was 16) but he was on a motorcycle, wearing leathers, had an earing and had tattoos..... I remember thinking OMG!! no way is he leaving with my baby. but he came to the door introduced himself to me, shook my hand. I told him she wasn't quite ready yet. I asked him if he wanted to sit down to wait. He was a wonderful young man. He apologized for showing up like he did and asked if he could use our bathroom and went out to get his backpack. When he came out he was in jeans and a Tshirt. He was in the drama club at school and rehearsals had gone late so he didn't have time to go home and change and get his car. They were going to take my daughters car and, if it was OK with me, leave his motorcycle at our house. He didn't want my daughter riding it because she didn't have the right clothes. This kid was an honor student, and graduated that year 1st in his class. that was in 2000. He just finished his residency and last July they gave me my first grandchild, a girl.
In today's society we tend to complain about who our kids like, about who they are dating if we don't like them... in most cases the more we complain the longer they will date that person. I tried really hard not to have an opinion until I talked to them.
Sometimes I think there needs to be a rule that you have to date, with no sex for at least a year, then if you are still interested in each other and are talking about marriage when you are older, then you should have to wait until at least one of you is out of college. Finances is the #! cause of divorce in this country. and getting a divorce is just too easy. If your commitment were stronger, or you had to wait longer and make that commitment stronger them maybe divorce wouldn't be the first solution that popped into people's mind at the first sign of trouble.
In R&J the feud between the families was the reason that they couldn't be together. A daughter's duty was to marry to benefit her family, and definitely not an enemy of her family. They were both teenagers and felt that, like most teenagers, they knew what was best. Sorry, but true. in R&J's time when people got married it was REALLY for life, whether you liked it or not, that was why they felt death was better than a life without each other, they just needed to clue each other in on their plan. Conversely, even though the marriages were engraved in stone, the morals weren't. Affairs were common, after the heir was produced, then discreet affairs were very common among the upper crust of society.
Comparing it to today's society... Every parent wants to see their child marry to someone who they feel is a "good" person. It doesn't have to be a feud between families in our society, but cultural differences, religious differences. Or something as simple as appearance. I remember when a guy came to pick up my baby girl (ok she was 16) but he was on a motorcycle, wearing leathers, had an earing and had tattoos..... I remember thinking OMG!! no way is he leaving with my baby. but he came to the door introduced himself to me, shook my hand. I told him she wasn't quite ready yet. I asked him if he wanted to sit down to wait. He was a wonderful young man. He apologized for showing up like he did and asked if he could use our bathroom and went out to get his backpack. When he came out he was in jeans and a Tshirt. He was in the drama club at school and rehearsals had gone late so he didn't have time to go home and change and get his car. They were going to take my daughters car and, if it was OK with me, leave his motorcycle at our house. He didn't want my daughter riding it because she didn't have the right clothes. This kid was an honor student, and graduated that year 1st in his class. that was in 2000. He just finished his residency and last July they gave me my first grandchild, a girl.
In today's society we tend to complain about who our kids like, about who they are dating if we don't like them... in most cases the more we complain the longer they will date that person. I tried really hard not to have an opinion until I talked to them.
Sometimes I think there needs to be a rule that you have to date, with no sex for at least a year, then if you are still interested in each other and are talking about marriage when you are older, then you should have to wait until at least one of you is out of college. Finances is the #! cause of divorce in this country. and getting a divorce is just too easy. If your commitment were stronger, or you had to wait longer and make that commitment stronger them maybe divorce wouldn't be the first solution that popped into people's mind at the first sign of trouble.
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